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Feb 03, 2012
Michelle:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, and that starts with YOU. What your uncle did to you was criminal. He knew you wouldn't tell, and he preyed on you. He took advantage of your youth, your innocence and your vulnerabilities. And you were very likely not his only victim. He may well have stopped when you were 7 because his sick pedophile tastes were, and still are, for babies and toddlers. None of this was your fault, Michelle. When you cut and harm your Self with destructive behaviours and choices it's a way for you to avoid dealing with the pain of the abuse and the ultimate rejection you believe this pedophile left you with. The dynamic that was present in your life during those years and then your uncle's pulling away left you feeling emotionally bankrupt. It's time to put perspective on what REALLY went on and to begin putting deposits in your emotional bank. You've taken a first step posting here. That tells me that you're getting really close to being ready for help. But it really does start with you. Reach out for that help. Seek out some form of counselling or therapy, and then open your mind to the process. Trust me, as painful as talking about the memories are, in reality, it doesn't compare to the years of abuse you endured. There's no shame in asking for help. It's the most loving thing you can do for your Self. You can re-build your life, and then turn pain into power; of that I have no doubt.Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and healing energy, Michelle.

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Feb 03, 2012
Michelle
by: Anonymous

Hallo Michelle, I am so sorry for what happened and how you are still suffering.
As a Survivor and slasher myself I can really feel for you.
With myself for years I blamed "me" I thought it was all my fault; I was bad and no good and I felt I did not deserve to live.
I spent time in Psychiatric Institutions and lots of therapy, the more I talked about it and got it out the more it all started to make sense.
I came to realize that none of it was My fault, this is really important Michelle for you to come to this realization that you did nothing wrong, the blame lays all with your uncle.
I am feeling from your letter that you feel it was your self and you hate your self like I used to.
I really encourage you to speak out about what happened, don't be afraid or ashamed do it for yourself and your future, the more you talk about it the easier it will get. Seek therapy with an organization that deals with Abuse. I don't know where you live but near where I live we have an organization called The Centre for Sexual Abuse. Can you talk to your Doctor, he/she will be able to offer you some advise.
If this helps you Michelle, I am in my 50s now and am married with two children and every day I wake up these scars that I inflicted on myself are always there.
I wish you the very best and one day you will learn to love yourself, you are important, and have every right to live a happy, loving and safe life:)

Feb 05, 2012
never say hopeless
by: Rita M

Hi Michelle.g
I know the frlling o being abused in many ways and one of them was sexual abuse and rapes.When we are children we are very vulnerable.You were
too young to know what was happening.This man knew what he was doing and knew that you couldn't defend yourself.There is no excuse for that kind of behaviour towards you. The reason he was telling you to keep it a secret was because he
knew it was wrong.He knew it was a crime and could be charged for this.This is not your fault at all.The reason you are hurting yourself is because you need to open up and get help.A promise
that you are are holding inside of you needs to come out of you.You need to listen to your instinct.The healing comes from you.There are councellors that are well trained and have a heart
for people who have been hurt.The reason you need
to let go of the shame is because you need to give it right back to HIM where it belongs.You need to stop cutting yourself as soon as possible.That is where the hope is.Letting go is
not easy that is why you need to go as soon as possible to see a councellor. Healing starts within you.To speak to a professional is worth it.
You have all kinds of hope.Your cousin needs to be
charged.The quicker you get someone the sooner you can heal.You have already done the first step
by being on this site.I am pround of you.You have a life to live.You don't deserve to be abused.You have more strength than you know.Abusers hide because they know that they have wronged someone.
Another sign is when they pin the blame on victom
and make the victom keep it in as a secret.That way he can look good while the victom is falling apart.He doesn't care.There needs to be justice as soon as you start working on it .It is worth it.havae always looked forward to going to the next session.The councellor always told me that I
am safe and that I could say anything.I am now stable but now can go forward.Please remeber tell
on him.Don't hold back.Let it all out.I promise you it is worth it and that you will stop hurting yourself because you will find out how lovely a person you really are.It takes time but well worth
it.It's not too late to charge him.Get the councelling started first because you then have backup and they can support you.It will turn around You'll see.God Bless you.

Rita M

Feb 20, 2012
to ms. michelle
by: shaniya

I don't like it when someone calls someone else something bad. that increases my anger alot and deeply, deeply, deeply upsets me.

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