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Apr 19, 2008
A well-deserved pat on the back...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I congratulate you on breaking the cycle of abuse, Michelle. You are to be commended for that.

As for the issue of forgiveness, forgiveness is for YOU, not for the benefit of the "sperm donor." Forgiveness is the way to take back your power and to never again allow what he did to you affect any part of your life. To forgive is to be free.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 19, 2008
Ugghhhh
by: Anonymous4mysiblingsSake

How awful that you were subjected to the sperm donor's family for three horrific years. THANK GOD for your step father.

I still get angry with people who abuse their children and use the excuse that they were abused themselves. I know it is very difficult to do otherwise, I do it every day. I struggle daily with my initial reactions and think my actions through before I impose them on my child. It takes a bit longer to do this but it really works.

I am so very sorry for what you had to ordeal as a little girl. I had lived through such horrors from the time I was born until the time I was in my 20's (the emotional part only after I was 18). No child deserves to be treated that way.

Keep up the great work with your new baby. Remember as she grows she will develop into her own person and may not always be sweet and lovable. Take time to think before you act when she does get older and starts mouthing off.

My daughter is 11 now. She is not abused in any sense of the word. Instead of physical punishments we make her write, "I will not...." a hundred times or more if she mouths off. LOL.. People think I am weird but I am doing the best I can. So far, I have raised a sweet, confident, and loving child.

As far as forgiveness goes, I don't know if I have forgiven my parents. I know I had let go a long time ago. I had finally come to an understanding that they are only human and made their choices and only they had to live with them.

My mother passed away almost a year ago. I shed one tear for the relationship I would never have with her. She never loved me nor did she ever bond with me. She molested me, beat me to the point of stitches, stabbed me, humiliated me, tortured me, and did many other terrible things to me. I don't wish that she is burning in hell. I only wish she now knows what she missed out on.

Apr 19, 2008
Congratulations
by: LLS Buffalo

Hey Michelle, good job on being resilient. Me too. Youre doin nice for yourself and little one. Dont you feel great about yourself? Somewhere deep down abusers must feel like garbage. Im glad we dont have that guilt. I stopped the chain in my family too. I feel so powerful. I know God is happy about that. I was happy to read your story. I have a story and a healing one on this site somewhere within the last year. I find it amazing that people continue the chain. Im glad we didnt. Congratulations.

Apr 21, 2008
To Michelle1 and Anonymous4mysiblingsSake
by: Anonymous

Michelle1, I am sorry that happened to you. But I am glad that you broke the chain of abuse yourself because I couldn't do it. I am also glad that your mom remarried to your stepfather, the extremely kind man because you don't deserve to live with that so-called sperm donor, a monster who should've ben locked up in prison for the rest of his miserable life! You might also want to try counselling because you are worth the help, dear.
And to Anonymous4mysiblingsSake, I'm sorry about what you had to go through at the hands of your mother, the despicable, childhood-stealing woman. You see, my mom hit me, yelled at me and even argued with me, but she hasn't done more than that! Your mother should've been sent to prison for the rest of her miserable life, but instead, I know that she was dead now. But I am glad that you broke the cycle of abuse, congratulations for being a loving mother, but I also strongly suggest that you try counselling because you are worth getting the help yourself, honey! I wish you and your daughter all the best. Take care!

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