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Feb 09, 2010
Mere:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Things are not fine. Everything is not great. And things have not moved on. That is evident in your story. You are still reeling from what you were forced to endure as a child. Time doesn't heal all things; time is only a measurement. You said you've stopped therapy many times because it was too painful. Having been through therapy myself, I can honestly tell you that the breakthroughs come when you allow yourself to feel the pain. It's burying the pain that causes all the real problems, problems that follow you in every aspect of your life. Something I learned during my sessions was that I had already lived through the actual abuse and that it was no longer happening. Further, that I was actually abusing myself by continually re-living each and every incident over and over and over again, and of course, all the overwhelming emotions that came with it. Make a commitment to end that cycle. Go into counselling with the intent of busting through the emotions, not circumventing them. That was critical to my healing and recovery; and I believe it will be critical to yours. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Feb 10, 2010
Oh the harm he has done YOU. You don't deserve to be living with the effects of abuse.
by: maurice

Mere, how awful, you are still paining, hurting, sadly but naturally holding onto the memories of what that brute of an ADULT Male called your Father who scarred physically leaving marks on your tender bottom. But leaving the memory of each mark embedded in your gente, caring, sensitive mind and heart. You took the pain to safeguard your brother and step sisters. That was heroic of you. Now Mere, please read Darlene's comment ever so slowly, understanding her heartfelt thoughts and feelings for you right now where you find yourself in the abuse meted out to you as an innocent, vunerable child/teenager. Please lean on the shoulder of your best and trusted friend, advocate, cry, dry away your tears of pain and hurt. Then with that friend walk towards that Therapist again holding hands in total friendship. Be your own inner strength with the help of your friends strength and LOVE and let the therapist walk you through the memory pain of it all. Let it go gradually, the pain you have experienced in the telling will slowly evaporate and the rawness of the memory inside you belly button will lift and you will feel the winner over your abuser. Darlene, is ever so honest with each of her visitors and you are no exception in what she has related to you about the pain she endured while telling her therapist. Hi she can and does emphatise with you NOW hwere you are at. Trust her, Trust yourself, Be brave, Be strong and persevere with your therapist. Begin from this day on to have a healthy mind in a healthy body. get involved and take part in team sports, and cultural groups, intergrate and mix with likeminded people. Be free, There is safety and therapy in numbers. Get out there an be a team person with all your giftedness and tallents. Be an extrovert, not an introvert. Get off that bottom of yours and become active and alive with likeminded people who also want a healthy mind in a healthy body. I found that blew away the hurting cobwebs for me after I began my therapy and counselling. Build up your SELF ESTEEM look in the Mirror. be gentle and kind to the me that is looking back at you. Love and respect that body of yours. Soothe and massage creams/lotions all over it especially the parts so cruelly abused by your so called Father. He hurt you, He did not LOVE you. Now after reading my comment and others go back to the all important one Darlene's. Follow her loving encouragement to you. I can do it, I will do it, I must do it because I am WORTH IT. MERE, live well, laugh alot and love much. ESPECIALLY THE ME SELF IN THE MIRROR. Begin TODAY

Dec 02, 2010
update
by: mere

if you read this entry i have a newer version of my situation. thxs.

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