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Apr 17, 2014
Memorie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When parents do such horrific things to their children, they are not right in the head. They are sick and twisted. Clearly, dealing with their own demons, completely out of control. And it's those terribly abused children who grow up with sometimes lifelong effects that change who they are and how they relate to the rest of the world.

As a child you had no rights. No way to defend yourself. Every aspect of your life was carefully controlled and manipulated at a time when you were the most vulnerable. And though there isn't anything you can do to change what happened, you can heal from it.

What healing requires is a different perspective. Rather than the meme, "I've been ruined", it's very important to self-talk in a positive way. Tell yourself, I am enough. I am worthy of love. It's what you tell yourself after the "I am" that will dictate how you will experience life from here on in. Don't believe the lies that were told to you directly and indirectly. Tell yourself the truth about your Self. You can't change how your mother (or anyone else) chooses to behave. You can only choose your own response. Now is the time to take back your power. And powerful you ARE. The fact that you survived is a testament to that. I send you love, light and healing energy, Memorie. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 17, 2014
unfair
by: Anonymous

What you went through is unfair at best. I feel your total pain and your suffering. I feel it through and through because I suffered some of the same thing. I was sexualized really young, and I was punished for acting out sexually very early on with my little girl friends. My Mother was killed when I was nine because my father got out of control with rage at her when he was driving. That was the usual treatment - rage. I still suffer for it. I don't know what to tell you about "getting past it". You HAVE to though, you have to trust that your telling people about it is important and will make a difference for you. Choose carefully who you will tell about it. LIke this website. We have all in one or another been where you have been. You need a mirror of LOVE from someone. I have followed my older sister's advice to me: you can NEVER treat ANYONE the way our parents treated each other - and Marry someone who is HAPPY already. YOU CANNOT
MAKE anyone happy. They have to BE happy already. ANd YOU have to be happy. That helped me find a loving man to marry. I have been married for 26 years this month. We don't have childrenthough. I hope you read David Pelzer's book "A Child called It"... he wrote well about growing up abused. And he really was. Darlene has good articles on being the target child and also on being terrorized. You were both those things.

God bless and keep you close. YOU KNOW what you REALLY NEEDED and Honor that little child who knew what she needed inside you. My therapist has been helping me become the adult who can take care of the little child I was. The adults in my life couldn't take care of me. I have to do it myself. With God's help, I am doing just that.

I know you will too.

Apr 17, 2014
So many crimes committed
by: Anonymous

Memorie, I hope you're in a safe place now. As much as moms are supposed to take care you, love you, cherish you, encourage you and always be there for you through thick and thin.dads are supposed to protect you, guide you, and love you; both of your parents failed to do all of that. As for forcing you to go to school with a broken hand and then bringing you to the hospital and forcing you to lie to the doctors about said injury, that fact says that your parents knew what they did to you was wrong yet didn't care enough to stop; that makes them extremely dangerous. What you have suffered is NOT punishment; it is DOWNRIGHT EVIL abuse...and abuse is a vile, nasty thing. Plus, children are gifts to treasure, not to abuse.

Apr 26, 2014
Lock 'em up!
by: Anonymous

Memorie, what your parents did to you is pathetic and ungrateful. They didn't deserve such a smart, intelligent, beautiful, wonderful daughter like you, but most of all, you didn't deserve to have such sadistic, uncaring, unloving, uneducated, ignorant, unbelievably ruthless parents. As for beating you, slapping you, throwing heavy things at your head, slashing your forehead with a key, breaking your hand, threatening to chop your fingers, setting a piece of paper on fire and throwing it at you, throwing you around for crying when you were a baby and even slamming your head against the handle of the chair, you deserved better than what they did to you.

May 12, 2014
I love you, DON'T EVER FORGET THAT!
by: Anna Isabelle

You are a person of value, something that the people who did those sick things to you obviously don't understand. You must be strong now. You need to call the police. You need to find somebody who will REALLY listen to you. Please, don't make the same mistakes that I made as a child. I AM now strong. I know you will be, too. You are a person of value, even if your own parents don't believe that.

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