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Mar 05, 2012
Melissa:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When someone shows you a dark side like this man has (namely, hitting you), he WILL do it again. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but he WILL hit you again. The fact is, things are going well for him right now, but his tendencies are toward violence when they aren't going well. And you will pay the price when things aren't going well. If he loses his job or has something come up that he has difficulty handling, he will lash out. You said yourself that he has "issues". Your instincts are telling you not to have children with this man, in part because you fear he might molest them. That is in and of itself every reason NOT to go forward in a marriage. Just because he has helped you with your "issues" to date does not mean you owe him for the rest of your life. The two of you have helped each other. But that doesn't mean you are meant to be together in marriage. You are too worthy to settle, which to me is what you may be doing. Marrying someone because they've provided a need that wasn't met when you were a child is no reason to marry. Please seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to deal with what you've endured at the hands of the people who were responsible for care for you and keep you safe from harm. Deal with your own issues, and talk about your relationship with this man. The red flags of concern are waving at full mast, Melissa. Please re-think what you're planning for the rest of your life. At the very least, put it on hold until you've had a chance to do more healing. You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were, and the fact that you may well be moving toward an ultimately domestic violence situation. I send you and he love, light and healing energy, Melissa. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
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