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Feb 04, 2010
Melanie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your father really was twisted in his thinking. I'll offer an explanation; not an excuse, but an explanation. What often happens with adults who were severely abused as children is that they are so filled with rage and hostility that rather than see that what they are doing with their children is repeating what was done to them, they see it as taking the power and control they never had as children. Parents who don't break the cycle of abuse can see every misdeed or misbehaviour by a child as an affront that must be challenged, challenged in a way that they could never challenge when they were small. It has very little to do with discipline. It has everything to do with power and control, an opportunity to fight back. Very warped. You, Melanie, chose a different path than your father. You chose to break the cycle of abuse; and for that, I commend and applaud you. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 05, 2010
To be born into a caring loving family
by: maurice

Oh Melanie 1, not for you sadly, Like I was born into a single Mom family always longing and wondering if I had a Father etc. It was never to be. I let go of it as something I could not have changed as I began to realize the NOW time of my life is the most important. I have learned from the past the good things and let go of my abuse and negative memories that were holding me back from LIVING TH NOW TIME to the full each day I wake from my sleep and my dreams. Melanie 1 you have something to really LIVE YOUR NOW TIME. your child. Give him the family as ideal as you ca, make it for both of you. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body. be part of his interests and sport. get him involved with other children and their families and make friends and aquaintances naturally. Hi Melanie 1 read those encourageing and empowering words of Darlene. She truly wants what is best for you and your beautiful boy. Begin LOVING yourself, building up your own self worth. I am wonderful/beautiful and gifted. Always believe in yourself. I can, I will, I must because I AM WORTH IT. Look in that mirror and be gentle and kind to that beautiful body of yours and on yourself. Erase the bruises and scars that your Father left after his abuse. He sure was a freak, a controller an ABUSER of you his innocent vunerable daughter. Let go NOW. speak with a counsellor in total confidenece. bring what you wrote on Darlene safe haven site for all her visitors. she loves us all equally and lets us know through her own personal comment after re-assuring herself that our story is real and genuine. Melanie 1 if you act on her words to you you'll know she as helped you with your healing from abuse. You become the winner not the victim in your right. Renaming her own abuse story from VICTIM TO VICTORY means she knows what she has proved to herself that there is a life to be fully lived after abuse. hear her, heed her.

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