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Dec 11, 2009
Be clear about your boundaries...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Melanie, you must stand up for yourself. When you're uncomfortable with something someone is doing to you, put an end to it by being assertive. Tell him you don't like it when he puts his arm around you and that you want him to stop. I also suggest you read my child sex offenders page on this site for more information about children who molest. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Dec 11, 2009
Advice
by: Anonymous

Next time he tries do touch you just do like Darliene said but do it loud so that there's even a small chance that you might be heard. It'll make him stop and become uneasy because he'll think he's going to get caught. Trust me it worked on me a lot.

Dec 12, 2009
Don't be afraid, be brave, have courage
by: maurice

Melanie don't be afraid, I am certain you have a close friend your own age who will stand by you to be brave and have the courage to tell someone what this person is doing to you against your will. You know he is abusing you, molesting your beautiful innocent vunerable body. He knows it is wrong so with your friend tell him get lost. I will tell on you tell him. I don't want you to be near or touch me ever again. You are an intelligent teenager as how you articulated the telling of your story to Darlene and her visitors. She is one very professional woman with a huge human heart for anyone wh0 was or is being abused. In her comment to you she has your safety and protection in mind. She has advised your best way forward where possible take action. He needs help NOW. so he won't abuse other innocent girls Melanie. You stop him in his tracks, warn him off you first. Get help for yourself. Have a true friend or two who will hold your hand and be your strength to tell the right people. Hi, it is obvious from what you have written that you have respect for yourself and your beautiful body. Build up your own self worth and self esteem. Look in the mirror as big as you can find one. Look at the beautiful me in the mirror. Admire that body of yours, protect it from molestors, be in charge of your own destiny. Think positive, act positive, be positive in affirming yourself. talk to that lovely me person in the mirror, it ain't silly it is natural and very normal. be gentle with yourself. Hug yourself, shower yourself with words of affirmation. I am beautiful, I have a beautiful body etc. Positive thought get rid of negative thoughts Like, I don;t like this, etc. love all of you because it is you. Melanie get the help Darlene is suggesting. read what she asked you. The more knowledge you have the better you will love and respect yourself.

Dec 15, 2009
Thank you so much
by: Melanie

Thank you guys so much. And Maurice, what you said made me cry, but in a good way. I do have a very special someone I can talk to about this, my boyfriend. I told him everything and he told me everything is okay now and he reasures me about all of this and tells me that even though I feel like I am, I'm not disgusting or dirty. He makes it all go away. Everything you guys said is so helpful and amazing. You don't know how much everything you said means to me. Thanks again, so much.

Dec 16, 2009
Your Loved and Respected You deserve the BEST
by: maurice

From Victim to Victory ''WoW'' how insightful is the steward of her very own Site. Darlene thank you please keep a special part of your day, week, month notice not tying you down to write you comments to your Visitors. The Joy Melanie gave me this morning with her thank you equally moved my heart to gentle tears of Joy. Thank you Melanie. You gave me great HOPE and I am certain eqaully to the many visitors to Darlene's site. A true and trusting friend is one very precious jewel in all our lives. Great you have found one. Stay Safe special, wonderful and beautiful one. As friends please always Love and Respect each other allowing each other the time to grow and blossom in your own right. Value each others LOVE for each other in friendship. I am so happy for you both may you have a Blessing from God this Christmas and all the year through. Amen (so be it)

From Darlene: Maurice, while I appreciate what you are saying, you ask more than what I can keep giving. There may be a point where I must decide to either comment or shut down the stories feature of this site, much as I don't want to. You'll notice how I can no longer even edit the submissions. There just aren't enough hours in the day, especially when I start traveling to do speaking engagements.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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