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Mar 26, 2011
Melinda:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You've earned that anger, hatred and hostility. And it's healthy to express it. The most important thing now is to deal with all of it. To allow yourself to fully feel all of it, but in a safe place. Don't try to do this alone; it's too much to bear. Re-living such horrific abuse feels as though it's happening in the moment. And your body doesn't know the difference between the memory and an actual episode of sexual abuse taking place in the moment. That's why it's so important to seek out some form of counselling. Otherwise, that anger, hatred and hostility will haunt you and over take you. You deserve to be free, Melinda. As long as you're not, that sex offender continues to control your life. Take back your power. Talk to a counsellor. You didn't deserve to be sexually abused. You most definitely deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 27, 2011
Talk it out with someone you trust:: A good and true friend
by: maurice

Melinda: Your special: your brave and you had the courage to search for and find Darlene's site: with her woman's heart encourageing, loving words: BUT you must with the help of a friend or a family member you truly trust get the help she advises: Speak with a counsellor: who'll put all you wrote in perspective for you: Darlene is very much in the know and certainly empatises with you in the memory you have of that horrible night in your childhood years at 11 years: seeing the blood on the sheets when you went to bed must have shocked your innocent mind: Because you hoped the night before never happened: Melinda, it did, you know that for a fact now: He abused you sexually the old dirty ____ better not write the names that are going through my mind to describe him: It would be unfair to Darlene and you: she is a great and loving steward of her site: safeguarding all of her visitors from expressing their total anger in how they feel about their's and others abuse at the hands of sicko's, control freaks, Beastly in the carrying out of such horrific abuse on their innocent victims: Melinda, please KNOW and say I was not to blame: It was not my fault that beast entered my room took off my clothes and abused me sexually: Get help the kind that Darlene suggests: I will suggest something that I know is a great way to value and respect yourself: Have ahealthy mind in a healthy body: Healthy body being the core thing: You must change your daily/weekly routine putting your leaisure times to good use: Get out their with like-minded class mates: fellow students, people your own age and gender and take part in team sports or sporting and cultural activities with them: You are gifted, you are tallented, I bet you have leadership qualities that you can benefit other people lives with: Be gentle and kind on yourself and your body: Build up your SELF esteem: love that me looking out at you from the mirror; cuddle and hug love into your body often: My friends tell me there are numerous of scented oils and creams that make the body feel good when massaged into it: Melinda be gentle and kind to that body of yours:

Mar 27, 2011
You are EVERYTHING, Mel.
by: Anonymous

First of all, thankyou for sharing, Mel. Thank you for being you. And who you are is incredibly special. You are strong, you have a voice, and you know how to express it. I, and everyone in this world, want to hear you roar!
It takes a lot of courage to share stories such as these, and your anger is justified. It pains me to know that something like this happened to you, but like anything in life, we can either let it defeat us, or we can beat it.
And you seem like you are beating it.
Raising awareness about Sexual Abuse is the best form of revenge, and the more people that hear stories from brave people like yourself, the more people will get the message, meaning that hopefully, one day, we will live in a society where this will no longer be happening as often.
And it's because of people like you, with so much courage in sharing your story, that this will be possible.

Mar 27, 2011
HATE
by: michelle f

I am so proud of you melinda that you are using your voice to help yourself heal,you do need counsling or you will become a 40 year old woman like me that still has problems.You don't have to see your father's family anymore,but you need to press charges and or forgive him (GRANDPA)because it will not do you good to hate,all the hate will eat YOU up.He is so stupid that he only thought about himself and his wants,not caring bout you,but now you need to care bout you,the pain will never stop till you face it and you are on your way to healing,don't ever let anyone ever do this to you again,I understand you just wanted caring love not this,but it happened PLEASE START HEALING,stop hurting yourself it wasn't your fault he was wrong you are something a wonderful person that needs love HE IS NOTHING TO U ANYMORE

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