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May 07, 2010
Martin:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I strongly recommend some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of coming from such an abusive environment. What happened to you as a child does not have to continue to haunt and affect you, but you must reach out for the help you need first. Your mother was a sex offender; and she used your vulnerability for her gratification. You most definitely need to address that. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 08, 2010
strong
by: NB

your very brave to share your story sir and I thank you for that. Im very sorry for the awful things you went through. its very hard when you cant trust your own family. no one deserves that. I self harm to and it only helps for a little while. I hope that you find good help and find a way to feel good and to love yourself so you dont need to self harm anymore. stay strong.
you make me feel not so alone. thank you.

May 08, 2010
Reply
by: Martin

Dear NB, thank you very much for your kind thoughts.

May 08, 2010
Reply
by: Martin

Dear Darlene thank you very much for your comments and for managing such a wonderful website.

May 09, 2010
Always Believe in YOURSELF: with alot of help from your friends
by: maurice

Great Martin you have acknowledged the Value on Darlen's site for you and all her many visitors which includes me: As always Darlene has personalised your horrific abuse at the hands of your weird and sicko of a mother: Parent's who should never have children: They both did you and your sister an injustice by the abuse they perpetrated on you both: You now realize you were abused by sicko's; Let go Martin: you have a loving family around you but you don't have to let you abuse effect you or them haunt you anymore: Counselling is the better way forward for you to begin with: Your honesty to the level you felt you could relate all that happened you is a first step to you relating all to a counsellor: It is amazing but I too was into self beating myself especially my buttocks with instruments to re-enact the pain of a spanking/beating on me as a child: Once I told a counsellor I moved on, copped on, He said it was a natural re-action but not the way to help the healing process of the physical abuse on me as a child: It worked for me Martin, I am sure it is the way forward for you too: LOVE is at the center of it all: Love yourself let the real and beautiful you let go: so you can trully love your good wife and family: Live well: Laugh alot: Love much: be gentle and kind to yourself: Breathe in positivity as you live your daily life to the full: Let go Martin: Take Darlene's loving affirming advice in her comment to you and all who love you for who you are in their lives today

May 14, 2010
To Martin
by: Anonymous

Martin-it's so good that you are talking about it. I am so sorry for your pain. What happened was not your fault. I totally relate to your story. I wish you healing and the love which you have always deserved.

Best, Missy

May 17, 2010
Dear Maurice
by: Martin

Dear Maurice

Thank you so much for your kind and comprehensive response.
It is most appreciated.

Martin

May 19, 2010
we learnd from each other the best way to move forward in life
by: maurice

Thanks to darlene I have learned that it is good to heed the best of advice and encouragement and move on: She certainly gives us all a new kick start if we really care and want to heal from abuse: thank you too Martin:

Jun 05, 2010
embrace your inner child
by: Chanelle

Dear Martin,
There is nothing more excruciating that being abused by a mother.
Mother should be symbolic of protection, validation, unconditional love.
Your mother didn't just fail to protect or embrace you as a child, she abused the very essence of what a mother means...
It must be so hard to trust others, so confusing to differentiate the genuine from the fake...for you the past isn't the past, it is the present...
I myself am struggling to let go of the need to obtain my mother's approval, to let go of the daily flashbacks, to caress my inner child.... in no way, am i comparing your pain to pain...everyone's situation is individual...
All i can say is allow yourself to feel, to feel everything,,,shattered dreams, lost childhood, suppressed anger, suppressed resentment, loss and even self-love.....
best of luck on your journey towards healing
Chanelle

Nov 10, 2010
People of the Lie
by: Anonymous

Dear Martin,
What happened to you was demonic. You mother was evil. So was your father. They did things very cleverly, almost as if required, or under some scope of "professional duty" as to evade detection. These are demonic people. They are the most difficult to detect because they wear so many masks of sanity. They literally abuse you with a smile and expect you to feel good about the abuse. This is beyond mental illness. Mentally ill people are actually less benign. Evil, demonically controlled people are the most pernicious and must be aggressively handled as in tape them, gather evidence and expose, expose, expose because they are masters of deception. Liars, just like the father of lies, who controls them and uses them to do his sick will. Ironically, when you are targeted by these types of people, it's because what is IN them, sees what is IN you--and they hate it. God has his eyes on you. You most likely belong to him, and their spirit knew this. I strongly advice you to seek God on this matter and find who you really are in His love and strength. I'm sorry you had to go through this, but what satan intended for evil, GOD intends and can turn around for GOOD. And He will. He can restore ALL that the locusts have eaten in your life. You can find the hope, healing and love and sound mind you desperately are seeking.

Nov 15, 2010
if only they realized when they abuse the innocent and the vunerable:
by: maurice

I sincerely hope and pray you acted on Darlene's loving, caring, re-assuring comment: If you did then your life and all those nearst and dearest will have benefitted from the counselling she suggested was most important for you to be in: I only hpe your life is much better: You are living it to the full: Being gentle and kind with yourself and all you love and care for: You must let go no matter how difficult that is: Don't Quit: Don't give up on yourself: I'll be the winner over my abusers for my own sake and that of others who matter most to me NOW: counselling will help put all thatyou had to endure at the hands of a ruthless and abusing mother: Many love comments share your hurt and your pain: There is life to be lived after having been abused: Darlene sure has proven that turned her pain into empowering others and her many visitors to her site: Take her advice and get counselling:

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