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Jan 10, 2012
Maria:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Don't be too quick to say that your adoptive father has an "amazing" life. It may appear so on the outside when you use the measurement of money as wealth, but on the inside, he knows what he did no matter how much he might try to convince himself otherwise. That makes him extremely poor and deficit as a human being. Consider this, he STILL holds power over you as long as you continue to hold onto the idea that he messed you up and that it will be lifelong. It doesn't have to be that way, Maria. Take back your power. Only you can make that decision. What he did to you is no longer actually happening to you, except in your mind. And your body doesn't know the difference between something that is actually happening to you in the moment and a memory of it. That means that your health is adversely affected by the sheer memory of what happened to you. And though you can't forget what happened, you can change the way you think about it. And when you change what you think, you automatically change how you feel, which in turn, changes how you act. But you'll need help getting to that place. If you are in counselling or therapy, go into each session with an open mind and a determination to get everything out in the open. Bury nothing. Be prepared to share everything, including all your emotions. When you do so, only then can those painful emotions begin to let you go. If you're not in counselling or therapy, please seek it out so that you can deal with all the abuse, the betrayal and the abandonment, and not just from your adoptive parents. You still have much to deal with regarding your birth parents as well. You didn't deserve to be abused and discarded, Maria. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. And consider this, the world would be a much different place without you in it. Your family are among the people who not only need you, but love you. Reach out for the help you need. Writing your story here was a first step. Take the next. I send you love, light and positive energy, Maria. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Jan 10, 2012
see his game
by: Jill

Maria,
My birth father's like that too. My brother had both drug and anger issues and nobody talked. When I remembered my abuse as an adult, I couldn't function for a year I was so depressed. I wanted him in prison and $$$ to compensate for my loss. Of course none of that happened but my self worth was restored because I knew I'd never have to hide my story again.

Your adopted father's life is a complete fake. His image is nothing but an empty shell. See him for his horrible behavior because that's what's really going on. He has no power over anyone that sees his game. His life's a sham and he's on auto pilot. He hangs out with people that are all part of the same sad gig and together they prop each other up like a Hollywood movie set.

It may take a while to turn how you see this man around, but I know you will recover because from what you wrote, deep down you value yourself and you want to be there for your own family. :) Best Wishes.

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