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Feb 20, 2011
Maia:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The guilt you feel is misplaced. You have nothing to feel guilty for. Guilt implies you did something wrong, but you did nothing wrong. Nothing at all wrong. This camp counselor, as you said, groomed you and took advantage of your vulnerabilities. You were a CHILD, for goodness sake. You are placing adult more mature values on what you did and did not do as a little girl. The next time you're around children that are about 7 or 8 years old, have a good look. Take note of how young they are and how they are too small to do anything to protect themselves from what an older person and/or adult does to them. This counselor didn't "love" you. He satisfied is sick and twisted desires through you, certainly not "with" you. He was in a position of power and authority over you and he misused that power. You couldn't consent; children can't consent. Don't ever forget that. By not telling your parents now, you are robbing yourself of the ability to really deal with the effects of this sex offender's abuse on you, and as a result, robbing your parents of the ability to do what they as parents need to do in order to help their precious daughter. Please reconsider your decision. You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help now that you have. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 20, 2011
what dont kill u only makes u stronger.
by: rachel

I no how you feel. And telling your family might help u out. And I turned to drugs and alcohol to help me cope with stuff but I found myself lost in a world I did not want to be in and it was a hell of a lot harder to put it down then it was to pick up all my bad habits. And I did a lot if bad stuff that I wish I never would have done. But I got out of all of that thankfully. And I can understand why you would turn to girls. It took me along time to be able to get close to a guy but u just have to tell yourself that they are not all bad like that! And I can understand that u don't remember who it was who did this to you but its not your fault. We try to block the bad stuff out that has happen to us and then we just forget. But it will get better. With more time it will get better.

Feb 22, 2011
good without bad
by: Anonymous

some men are weird and f***ed up, and you are just so unlucky that he came across you and chose you. life is full of good and bad things. and that horrible man is just someone that was in your life for that period of time. don't let him rule your life now, what he did was messed up but your older now. I don't think anyone is completely heterosexual, so being with women is normal, whatever you do is normal, don't feel you have to conform to other peoples ideal, they haven't been through what you have, so it doesn't apply. your life is what you make it. you'll love, laugh, cry and have heart brake, but that is the beauty of life, its unpredictable and without the bad you wouldn't have the good.

Mar 01, 2011
Always believe in yourself: You'll be the winner over your abuser
by: maurice

Maria: I have no doubt you will live a full life: you'll know the value of a real and true friend in time when you can open your heart feelings to: The Beast of a male who raped you needs to be told on: But as you can't remember who he was, the beast could be still molesting other innocent little girls: Thankfully the majority who care for children and the young coaching teams, being girl guide and scout leaders or who arrange summer camps are totally trustworthy: The one who raped you should never have been part of Summer Camps because he was a molester and was there to abuse the innocent: Marie you are a highly inteeligent young woman: Darlene has opened up a thinking process for you to work with: Counselling will help: Have a real friend (s) your own age and gender will help you to do what is best for you right now: Be safe; Stay safe: love, value and respect yourself and your body: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body; So take part in sporting and cultural activities with your friends and fellow students: Team sports work wonders for self esteem: Gives one a whole new out look on one's body and oneself naturally: You'll make real and trusting friends for life: Be gentle and kind on yourself: Celebrate the great, the good, and wonderful me inner child (me) that looks out at you from the mirror: Live well: Laugh alot: Love much: I will: I can: I must: Because I am WORTH it. Always believe in yourself:

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