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Sep 25, 2007
Replace negative messages
by: Darlene Barriere

M Hat, you need to replace those terribly negative messages into positive ones. Your grandma was wrong. Your grandpa was wrong. Your mother was wrong. You are a bright and worthy person. You didn't deserve to be told anything but good things about yourself. Don't for one more second carry the torch by calling yourself such dreadful names. Tell yourself: I am smart. I am beautiful. I am talented. I am worthwhile. I have wonderful things to contribute to the world. Keep telling yourself these messages because, you know what M Hat . . . they are ALL TRUE!!! My visitors and I all know this. Now it's up to you to start believing it.

Sep 25, 2007
Don't give up
by: Anonymous

It might be hard to accept yourself but there is something worthwhile in you. Don't give up on live or having a quality life. Victims sometimes get caught in being a victim. Find someone to help you heal, find yourself as worthy and help you to grow into a whole person. You could get better and help others in the future. I have been a victim also but I have a fighting spirit that tells me "I will not allow myself to be beat down, I will overcome this, I will make a decent life for myself." It all comes from inside. And don't be fooled into thinking all the people around you have wonderful lives. Everyone has issues and there are many people who look fine on the outside but have suffered too.

Sep 26, 2007
You are special
by: Paula

Dear M Hat,

I feel your pain. I know what it is like to feel judged by everyone you see and feel like you don't belong to the "real" world. The truth is that God has a plan for you. You are here for a purpose. I was abused as a child too. Even though I don't have the same kinds of problems that you do, I still bear the emotional scars. I have decided that I will not let my abusers win. I will be what God meant for me to be. I will not be a quitter. Don't ever give up on yourself. I know it is not easy but you can make it. I believe in you. You took a very important step by telling your story. Reach out to other people now. They will see you for the miracle you really are and that will give you strength.


Sep 26, 2007
Fight
by: Anonymous

Keep Fighting to survive. Not just physically but mentally and emotionally as well. It will be okay.

Sep 29, 2007
why do bad things happen to good ppl
by: Anonymous

hey girl..i know i may not have the rights to say anything like 'i know how you feel' or 'it's ok..its gonna get better', cos you have been through so much and i probably can never know how u feel..i'm sorry for all that has happened to you. this may sound like an advice given from everybody else..but from the bottom of my heart, i know one thing's for sure- GOd can change your life. he can make u forget your past, give u a new future and a new hope. you will never know. just give him a chance to be a part of you. i know it's hard to get to God after all yyou've been through. but realy..it's only through God that we can redeem ourselves and get the salvation we need. you may ask.why do bad things happen to good people..it's becos we live in a fallen world..where suffering and sin is everywhere. i don't think you're a bad person or a lousy person with no more future..you were never given a chance in the first place. i hope you do take my advice..get to a church, and find the hope that was stolen from you from the day you were born. in the bible were stories of men born deaf and blind and possessed by the devil, but when they met Jesus they were set free. you may think that its all rubbish and it can never happen to you. BUT the power of a MIRACLE only happens when u have FAITH>>you don't have to be this way forever. unless u choose to be. :) take care of yourself girl.

Sep 29, 2007
You are precious
by: Debra

Dear M, you are a beautiful and precious individual. Your value and worth as a person can never be measured by what others have done to you, no matter how vile or awful their actions against you. Just by your written blog here, I have a strong sense of how truly beautiful you are. A great big thank you for opening up your heart and sharing a little but very important part of your world. God Bless and keep you now and always. Debra.

Oct 07, 2007
Anonymous
by: Anonymous

Your letting the people who hurt you win and if everything you said is true they do not deserve that. Everything happens for a reason even if you dont know why or cant see it, its there. And you talking about it shows that your not going to let them rule your life, it shows your strong. Eventhough you sometimes think you shouldnt have been born, you were and now you can help people even if you think you cant, I know you can.

Oct 19, 2007
Please don't hate yourself
by: Anonymous

What these people did to you are their sins and things that they will pay for. Don't feel bad for needing to tell somebody what happened to you. I know there is nothing I can say or do to make you feel better about all of this but you can get through this. I don't know whether you believe in God or not, but He is the only thing that will ever make this better. You are not worthless and if no one else does, I care about what happens to you.

Dec 03, 2007
you only think that...
by: Anonymous

ok, ur life maybe not glamorous and perfect and yes you may have had a hard childhood but that is no way yo live ur life! so you are blind and deaf in one ear so what? it sucks but life will go on if you do! ypu are not ugly, nobody is. truth is you could be ugliest person in the world and not care. self esteem! you need to find some, i know i may sound apathetic but im right. bueaty comes from the heart, and everyone has a heart.

Jan 06, 2008
M Hat
by: M

Again I say you aren't stupid or any of those things you keep saying, People make stupid choices and someone else pays the price. It's unfortunate that you have to pay. I'm a former victim as well and I've at times thought "what's wrong with me?" to tell the truth, there's nothing. I'm unique and beautiful and so are you. Your mother, granny, dad, uncle, grandfather...you name it, they don't matter. What they do shouldn't influence how you veiw yourself.

If you do, it's a choice you make and they then control you and you let them win. It becomes a descission that You have to make. Make thee one in which you see your true worth. I still have trouble but we're getting there.

Oct 27, 2017
It's Not You...
by: C.O. (again ❀)

...it's not you who is stupid and ugly and worthless..it's the people who should have loved you but, for whatever reason, didn't. I may not know why they treated you so badly but I do know that it was NOT your fault! But I do understand what it's like to have low self esteem...i also have a low opinion of myself because my ex-Mother and ex-aunt and ex-cousin taught me to believe I didn't deserve to be loved and that nobody worthwhile would ever love me..but they were wrong about that! Although I still struggle with negative thoughts about myself, I've been lucky enough to have been loved by some amazing people - and that could happen to you too! I wish I could give you a hug and to be able to find the right words to try to help you believe in yourself - you should be proud of what you've overcome so far - as the saying goes: "Only the strong survive" and you have proved that you are strong! Is there anybody at a shelter who could advise you on how to get help such as counselling etc? Because you deserve to be helped...Much love and hugs sweetie...and stay strong! β€πŸ’•πŸ’–πŸ’“πŸ’™πŸ’šπŸ’›πŸ’—

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