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Jun 28, 2013
Lynn:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When terrible things happen to us, we can choose to see what happened in a different light, with a different perspective. As challenging as it is to see the positive in such negative circumstances, it can be done. We can choose to turn our pain into power by simply changing what we think about what we endured. Independence that was forced on you at such an early age may well have served you, prepared you for what was to come. That's not excuses the behaviour of others or saying that what happened was right. What it's doing is giving it purpose in your life. But even with purpose, that doesn't mean reconciliation with family is going to happen. Sometimes it becomes necessary to bring distance between you and family members. And sometimes, as it was in your case, it's necessary to take it to a legal level. Family isn't always blood. Family can be chosen. It's all about relationships and how we choose to develop and nurture those relationships. As for the concern you have for your mother, you can get in touch with the public trustee if she is of diminished capacity and you believe your brother and his wife are taking advantage of her. Otherwise, the legal system takes the approach that as an adult woman she can make her own choices. Continue to live your life in a way that is healthy for you, Lynn. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 28, 2013
Tell someone NOW!!!
by: Anonymous

Lynn, what your brother is doing was, is, wrong. Oh, and when you were kids, where were your parents at that time? As for your mom, even though I can understand your concern for her, protecting you from harm was still supposed to be her #1 job as a mother. I have a dysfunctional family too and my parents never protected me from my brother, so I've been there. Have you tried counselling yet? It's great that you already worked to get out of that unhealthy environment because no more secrets can and will help put an end to the cycle of abuse and helplessness. For starters, never be alone with abusers again; please look into reporting your brother (and quite possibly his wife, too).

Jul 17, 2013
time and space
by: John

Hi Lynn
I have posted my story on this web site some time ago. I grew up living in an extremly abusive and and painful environment all my young life and when I could leave I did and never went back. I went through a couple of periods where I came within a few seconds of killing myself to end the tremendous pain I lived with. In my opinion you need to stop and end the connection with a very troubled past with people who for what ever reason don't love and care about you. I cant forget my past but it no longer controls me as it once did. You have the power to stop that very abusive connection with people that clearly do not love you.
Thank you for listening to me.
John

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