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Apr 21, 2011
Lydia:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sometimes when we bring our memories to the light of understanding we are better able to cope with them. Yes, your sisters violated you. They too were children, and though children can be sex offenders, when they are, they themselves have been sexually abused somewhere along the way. They often don't know better. They often do to other children what's been done to them. That doesn't change the fact that you were abused by them, but perhaps it will help you see things in a different way. You said your father is violent and that you're afraid of him, so talking to him is likely out of the question. Please consider speaking to someone like a trusted teacher or a school counsellor, someone who can help you with what you're dealing with now. And consider contacting one of the hotlines listed on my stories page, depending on where you live, in order to talk to someone confidentially. You didn't deserve to be abused, Lydia. You most definitely deserve help for the fact that you were. And just for the record, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Nothing at all. There is no shame in being the victim of abuse. Ever. Always remember that. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 22, 2011
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

There is no shame being the victim of abuse Lydia Very empowering words from Darlene: Who sure knows there is truth in her statement: She was a victim (real) but she can rightly say there is no shame attached: Lydia you told the truth and what you older sisters did to you: Siblings as abusers have cropped up a few times in recent weeks here on Darlene's safe have site: Teenage abuse of children equally so: I know from the few experiences I had myself as a child that is (could) have been the case when I was growing up: Even though all of us were around the same age when we went to to secret hide-outs and undressed and nakedly chased each other about and touching each other up etc: Innocent fun as we thought then but there were a few much older ones than us and they could have abused us: they did exactly the same as your sisters did to you: But because we all were so innocent it is a vague memory but it is still there: I am certain once you get counselling or speak to someone you trust it too will become a vague memory and you can get on with living a normal real life to the full: Thank you for sharing, with the comment Darlene gave you I learned alot: Hi Lydia, she's speakes to you from a woman's heart, act on her loving, caring, concerned words they will empower you as her pain of abuse empowered her to be the great woman, person now in all of her visitors lives here on her site: we are a big family who can empatise with each other from our hearts speaking our feelings in the comments we write: Knowing Darlene is a professional relationship Lady and a great steward of her site: Her vision: Lydia, you'll be fine, start today haveing a healthy mind in a healthy body: yes I hope you don't be thinking laziness have I ever offended you? if you have Ms Lydia now is the time to correct it: I want you to get out and about being active and alive: Taking part in Team Sports: sporting and cultural activities with your own age and gender: You'll be a new thinking person within weeks: Oh yes Lydia, you'll make real and natural friends, you'll have aquainatances who'll make you feel good, make you laugh and smile when you cross path's: Have one/two real friends (girls) your own age who'll listen, share, trust, care, love value you for the great and wonderfullly gifted/tallented young thinking adult that you have come accross being here, in what you wrote: Get some form of counselling and all will be put in perspective: Whetehr your sisters feel they have done you an injustice matters least: You be happy, and live your life to the full each day you wake up:

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