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Oct 27, 2008
Discipline does NOT mean "raising a hand" to your children...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Lori, you went through a great deal of pain and suffering as a child at the hands of an abusive mother. Now, as a mother yourself, you are allowing your own children to abuse you in much the same way your mother did, at least emotionally. Your children treating you like "crap" as you put it has nothing to do with the fact that you won't raise a hand to them. Raising a hand shouldn't even be an option; but loving and respectful discipline is your responsibility as a parent. To do any less is to be neglectful.

When you don't set limits with your children, you teach them their inappropriate behaviour has no consequences. This is not the way of the world. When you allow your children to disrespect you, you allow them to disrespect themselves. As their mother, it is your duty to teach them consideration and respect for others. When you DON'T instill this lesson, you set them up for failure when they enter the world to make a life for themselves. This is no longer only about the way your children treat YOU, Lori, but the way they will treat OTHERS.

I thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me; and before I sign off, I must say: Please consider some form of counselling. You certainly deserve the help a counsellor can provide, and your children deserve a mother who thinks highly enough of herself to get that help. The right kind of counsellor can also help you get a better handle on the discipline issue with your children. I do wish you all the best.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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