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Jul 03, 2009
Don't beat yourself up...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Lola, stay with your therapy. Don't beat yourself up about the way you feel. Learn to understand why you feel the way you do. In this way you will not be doomed to repeat the past in your future with someone who is just like your father. You deserve so much better than that in your life. And you don't have to hate your father in order to realize that he's a mess and that he made a mess of your childhood. He's obviously not in his right mind: one need only read a couple of lines of your story to recognize that. But you must concentrate on getting your own life on track. You must concentrate on getting to a place in your life where you believe you are worthy of love and dignity and respect. And that dignity and respect must first come from you, Lola. If you continue to believe the lies your father fed you, you will continue to live them. But if you question those lies, and then recognize that they truly WERE—ARE—lies, then those lies, those thoughts, will let you go and leave you free to treat yourself better than anyone ever has. You're worth that, Lola. You really are. We can't help how we feel, but when we change what we think we automatically change how we feel AND then that leads to an automatic change in how we behave. I have faith that you can do this. And just for the record, you could NEVER "taint" your siblings.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jul 06, 2009
Right now I can't see myself beautiful, special, unique
by: maurice

Lola, reading your story I am very much aware that right now you can only see the not so nice side of you. Darlene has given you great hope in her loving, caring, helpful words of support and encouragement to you. As you shared your story and all the abuse you endured at the hands of a Father who was sick himself. No excuses at all for what he did to you having you now working hard at making a sense of it all. Don't you Quit LOLA, your life is totally in your own hands. With the therapy you are receiving as well as the right medication you will very slowly begin to come alive in yourself. Say I can, I will, I must do thing's that will help me to regain my own self worth, self esteem so that I can begin to live my life to the full. Lola. never give up hope, say I am a winner, Lola, always believe in your self. Let your Therapist, your physicians, your very special friends hold your hand to get you saying I must make myself better. I can prove that when one reaches the lowest ebb in one's life that the only way back is up. Go for it Lola with all the help from those who really LOVE you.

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