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Feb 01, 2010
Lindsay:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You can choose to not believe your father. You can choose to stand up and decide that you will no longer allow him to control what you think about yourself. You can choose to think for yourself. The fact is, based on his track record, he doesn't have any credibility. When I was dealing with my own "stuff" years ago, Lindsay, I found that I had to stop thinking about my parents as "parents" and start seeing them as flawed and disturbed human beings. The flawed and disturbed part was easy; the "human beings" part was difficult, especially given their propensity for violence. But when I did that, I was able to pull away from all the negative messages they filled me with. I still needed therapy, but it was a tremendous start for me. Perhaps that can help you too. And yes, Lindsay, you ARE worth it! Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 01, 2010
Your dad was out of control
by: Anonymous

Lindsay, your dad is wrong. You are not fat; you are beautiful. Your dad is truly out of control and he needs help...but you need help, too, so the sooner you tell someone, the better. Darlene is right. Lindsay, please tell someone you really trust until they will finally listen to you and help you. Plus, what he did to you is barbaric, pathetic, ungrateful...and cowardly...not to mention un-Christian (only a true Christian would never do such things to his/her children). Anyway, be brave, Lindsay, and stay strong.

Feb 02, 2010
Am I worth it??? Is one powerful question to be answered
by: maurice

Lindsay, as you wrote your abuse details ever so elouquently and precise. You are highly intelligent, You know your Father was not a good man. He did not show you LOVE, he was cruel, he was not kind. Knowing these truths NOW. means the only one who can answer your Question Honestly is yourself. Nearly every child I know have asked themselves that question at some stage of their growing as childen/teenager/young adult etc. THe most important person to answer that Q. is ME. with the help of your trusted friend (s) and peers. I am worth it, I was born beautiful, it was not my fault I was born into a crap situtaion of a house rather than a home. Linsday. start believeing in yourself. NOW. TODAY. Darlene has started the ball rolling for you. Choose the positive way forward for you in the choices you make. Talk with a counsellor in total confidence. That's a good place to start. New Beginnings in self belief. LOOK in that mirror of yours. see the beauty looking out at you, think and say positive things to that wonderful and beautiful me in the MIRROR. No negative one's. I Can: I will: I Must because I am worth it. I'M SPECIAL: I LOVE ME: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body LINDSAY. be active and alive with your likeminded school mates/peers. get involved with sporting and cultural activities in your school/area/community You'll find it refresshing and you'll be sharing your greatness and goodness with others. your tallents/gifts etc. You have alot to offer LINDSAY.

Feb 02, 2010
Worthiness
by: Hayley

You are most definitely worthy Lindsay. Your dad and brother are the ones that aren't. Though ast least your brother has found a worthwhile job in the armed forces. Hopefully he will get his just deserts there. As for your dad, he really is evil but drugs just aren't the way forward. I empathise fully with the comments about you being fat. No doubt your dad is wrong, my brother keeps calling me a fat cow, with a look of sheer contempts on his face. He thinks it's funny, if he took one of my best mates on from my hockey team he wouldn't! Hang on in there, you have been so strong for so long, don't bottle it now. Talk to someone tell them what is going on. Hopefully you can build your life properly and realise who you really are, the complete opposite to what your dad and brother say you are.

Feb 02, 2010
Walk Away as soon as you can
by: Kristen

Hi Lindsay. You are very brave for addressing this abuse at such an early age and seeking help. The best advice I can give you is to WALK away from your abusers as soon as you can. As much as it hurts, he will not stop doing this. I was emotionally abused (and a very small amount of physical) as a child and am now almost 40 years old. The biggest mistake I made was allowing the abuser to remain in my life all these years. I walked away from my mother 1 month ago (finally). She called me a prostitute and then started listing men she thought I had slept with (which was inaccurate and none of her business anyways) in front of my 1 and 3 year old.It was the final straw. I have been married for 4 years (absolutely no affairs) and have 2 beautiful children. What I am trying to tell you is that I kept going back to her, thinking that something would change, if I tried harder she would love me. I now finally realize after 39 years of this, my only hope is to completely cut her out of my life. Yes it hurts and it is hard, but unless THEY want to change their behavior it won't happen. So, get a plan, pull up your boot straps, walk away and take care of YOU. It will be a long, painful process to recovery, but you have youth on your side. You can do it! You do not need them. Find people who will support and love you...they are out there. Best wishes and stay strong.

Feb 21, 2010
You Will Find Happiness
by: Anonymous

I am so deeply sorry to hear this. This is a tear-jerking story.
I would, however, like to share with you a piece of what I believe.

I believe:
-That you WILL find happiness. God is your refuge.
-That your "father" was a sick man. But you have a true Daddy up in Heaven (God the Father) who will stick by you, protect you, love you, and always provide for you, even here on earth.


I have experienced coming to know God as a Father. I pray that you do is well. I will keep you in my prayers.
~God Bless you!

Feb 21, 2010
you ARE worth it!
by: Anonymous

God has a plan for you. You've made it this far. Let Him guide you. I hope you find true happiness in God's warm embrace.
I love you. (God's love through me I think)

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