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Dec 18, 2012
Lily:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You may not think you're angry because it doesn't appear that you are, but anger can easily be repressed. And when we repress our anger, it comes out in other ways, ugly ways, over the course of time as we go through the various ages and stages of our lives. Feelings of any kind are often suppressed or repressed by survivors of abuse and/or assault. But they're there. Deep down. You said many interesting things in your post. I only have the space to comment on one or two. YES, it was child abuse. It's not uncommon for survivors to believe it wasn't when they weren't physically harmed and when they have feelings for their abusers. What's important to understand is that abusers "groom" their young vulnerable victims. They give them all the things they are missing in their lives, so the child believes that what's happening to them is a show of that love. That's the vulnerability factor, Lily. I'll also address the fact that you don't want to talk about either the child abuse or the rape. When you keep these things secret or buried, you protect the abuser/assaulter. You don't know that your uncle didn't abuse his son. You don't know what you don't know. Abusers and rapists do not change their ways until they are made to; and that means those in authority have to know they've abused and assaulted. Please consider some form of counselling, Lily. These issues will not go away until you open up about what happened to you and allow your Self to fully feel the emotions attached to them. If you don't, they will continue to haunt you...and you deserve so much better than that. You didn't deserve to be abused. You definitely deserve help for the fact that you were. I send you love, light and healing energy, Lily. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
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