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Dec 07, 2007
Tragic . . .
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

Yes, Lily, your parents stole the childhood right from under both you and your sister. And they stole your sister's adulthood too.

You said that you speak to children in schools, and try to impress upon them the importance of telling; I hold you in high regard for this. Telling IS key. But you also said in your story that a "huge mistake" that you and your sister made was NOT telling because you were both ashamed. I'd say the mistakes were not on your shoulders or on your sister's. The "huge mistake" was that the school turned a blind eye to the red flags of abuse. The "huge mistake" was the fact that not one of your teachers thought it important enough to report the bruises that were so evident on you. The "huge mistake" was that not one of your teachers thought it important enough to contact the authorities when you weren't in school day after day after day after day.

And I doubt very much that the only reason neither you nor your sister didn't tell was because of shame; I'm sure fear of repercussions and fear of not being believed were at the top of the list of reasons. After all, the very people who were supposed to love you and nurture you, the very people you should have been able to trust and confide in were either abusing you or abandoning you. You've both paid dearly for that abuse and abandonment.

I understand the deep, everlasting connection and bond you have with your sister; she was your rescuer, the only person on the planet who cared about you—she was an angel. I sincerely hope you do not blame yourself for any of what happened, Lily. Because you were not to blame. Neither was your sister. The blame lies with your parents, with your school, with anyone and everyone who suspected something wasn't right and did nothing.

And just for the record, I think you're an angel too. You've turned pain into power by sharing your story with children in the hopes that they might learn from the tragedy that happened in your childhood. My heart goes out to both you and your sister, Lily. Thank you for sharing your story on my site.


Dec 11, 2007
You're amazing!
by: Anonymous

WOW! I'm sorry and i've seen movies on LMN about these kind of stuff but horrible things happen all around the world...even though that doesn't make anything a right thing to do.! You're an amazing person that has been through sooo much! i wish well for your sister and you too! Your story was very inspirational.

Dec 11, 2007
Sympathy
by: Anonymous

hello i am a reader of ur blog i am 13 years old and doin a project on child abuse due to the fact that i care.... i feel for u and ur sister i am very srry and hope u recovered well.. as to ur sister i think she shouldn't have been put in a mental place she did what she had to do to feel safe at home ... i know it may seem weird or rude but im glad as to what ur sister did 2 ur father and only because u guys and ur mum did nothin wrong ( i hope u don't take that the wrong way. if u do im really srry) i am glad that u have a happy family and i pray for u and ur family that nothin will ever happen to them ..... thank god ur dad isn't here to hurt ur little ones.... have a happy and safe christmas

sincerly
nicole
p.s Mery Christmas xoxo =)

Dec 11, 2007
damn......
by: Anonymous

i will pray for you in your family!!!

Dec 12, 2007
you have inspired us
by: Anonymous

we are doing a school project on child abuse and are extremely inspired by your blog. we admire you greatly and are going use your story in our leaflet to raise awarness of such extreme abuse.
thank you and good luck in the future
yours sincerly pearl and emmyline xx

Dec 12, 2007
To Anonymous with title "You have inspired us"
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

While I appreciate that you have taken the time to express your concern over Lily's story, any material on this site is copyrighted. Unless express permission is granted, you are not authorized to copy any material on this site.

Sincerely,

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster and Owner of www.child-abuse-effects.com

Dec 13, 2007
Title
by: Michael

That is the problem STILL nowadays. Children being abused are too ASHAMED to tell anyone, mostly sexually but still the message has to get across to TELL SOMEONE. I am really disgusted, how people of that ages can do something to a young child. You sister had it hard, in some ways you should be greatful. If she wasnt there, you would have been far off. She made a huge sacrifice. You are still haunted by your father and everything that has happened to you, but image how your sister must have felt. What she would have gone through.

Im sorry. I hope that huge changes will commence and more awareness to child abuse take place.

Jan 13, 2008
thank you for posting your story
by: Anonymous

i am so sorry to hear what had happpend.. i am doing a report for school and your story helped me greatly. i am sorry to hear about your sister. i wish you the best of luck

Feb 18, 2009
hi
by: sissa

hi,
thankyou for what yu said,
i dont know what to say other than yu are reli brave and strong to be able to tell yure story,
i dont think that i could tell my story to lots of people, im too afraid, im sorry that yure sister is so badly affected, but i gess thru yu doing this and telling people, then yure being the strong person that other people need to get thru, so shes still helping yu thru all of the things that yu remember her doing for yu,
thankyou very much
x

Feb 18, 2010
child abuse story from Lily
by: Anonymous

Lily,
what a wonderful gift from your sister..protecting you from your "father". I hope that you can forgive yourself because this is not your fault. I hope your sister comes back to you as a healthy, healed woman. Stay strong Lily and remember there are strangers out there who feel compassion and sympathy for you and your family. You are a surviver and should take a lot of pride in giving back to those children by sharing your story. I admire you and think you are much stronger than you might think.I am sorry you lost your mom God Bless you Lily and your sister and please remember a stranger from Minnesota is keeping you in her heart thoughts. Take care

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