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Mar 07, 2009
"Irrational" vs "rational" fears...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Laura, I'm very glad that you are now in a safe place with a loving couple who have adopted you. You deserve that love.

Your fears are not "irrational". An irrational fear would be one that has no source. Yours are trauma-based, Laura, which makes them "rational" fears. When a person suffers trauma, it is to be expected that they will be afraid of what induced that trauma: fear of water because you were drowned; fear of the dark because terrible things happened when you were in the dark; fear of stoves because you were purposely burned on one; fear of your cousins because of the heinous and criminal acts they committed against you. The latter could also leave you fearful of any caregivers and their motives, as this fear would relate to issues of trust and a history of betrayal. Such fears need to be addressed under the care of a professional. If you are not already in some form of counselling, I would hope your adoptive parents would seek it out for you. If they haven't yet, I strongly recommend you make the suggestion. You're worth that kind of help for yourself, Laura.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

May 13, 2009
Oh you are truly a Brave loving beautiful gifted child of the Universe and God
by: Anonymous

Oh Laura 3 my heart is gentle and tender right here now as I journey through Darlene's quarterly update of her visitors. Your story is horrific/horrendous. From losing your parents at the tender age of four with hardly any love of someone to make that real for you. Then to be placed with those awful people called extended family. You poor child, No comparisons but I've been told by a good number of similar scars like yours from the stove. water treatment, Oh were they scarred. Great Laura 3. you have found a loving adoptive pair of real Human beings whom you can trust. It will all take time Laura 3. great you are making a beautiful sense of the real you. Oh Laura 3 my heart goes out to you in all you've been through. But it is so great that you found Darlen's site. She truly is remarkable in having the vision for the need of her site. She is the best. she is the best master and steward of her own site, lovingly/caringly watching and sensing each one pain as they tell their story. For me she sure can emphatise with each one's abuse story. I really believe for one who has journeyed through abuse herself she sure can feel each ones pain/hurt who visits her site. Her words to you are heart. Always believe in yourself Laura 3. I'm Special, I can, I will, and I must begin to love myself and build up a meaningful mirror image of myself. Laura 3 say to that unique humanbeing in the Mirror, I am beautiful and I can accomplish anything I want.I have the help and love I need now not to doubt that fact. I am Beautiful

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