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Jan 24, 2008
The fear DOESN'T have to continue
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Kristy, the way your parents treated you was a travesty. They should have ensured you were safe from your brother. Your brother should have been removed from the home and treated for his sexual perversions. Your parents should have cherished you. Your violently abusive father should never have laid a hand on you, much less used a belt on you; and certainly not to the brutal degree that he did. Those wounds scar deeply.

There is little known about the extent of people with Munchhausen Syndrome by Proxy (MSP); but what is clear in your story is the emotional toll it took on you as a child, indeed as it continues to take as an adult. Not only did you have to deal with the constant medical consequences of your mother's purposefully harmful actions, you couldn't trust that she would protect you from your brother or your father because she couldn't be trusted to take care of you and nurture you and love you. It's no wonder you feel as you do today. But there is hope, Kristy, there really is. The fear doesn't have to continue...unless you want it to and let it continue.

You say that you struggle every day with the low self-esteem that they pounded into your head. If you continue to allow those negative messages in your head, you continue to give up your power to the very people who were so callous and uncaring. You must make a conscious choice to treat yourself well, to treat yourself in a way that you were never before treated. You must give yourself what you never received as a child. You must tell yourself only positive things. But you'll need help, both with re-programming your thoughts about yourself and with the memories that continue to haunt you.

Kristy, I strongly urge you to enter into some form of counselling. Although it may be difficult, try to find a counsellor or therapist who has experience working with MSP survivors, as well as someone who works with people who have been sexually abused. You're worth getting that help for yourself, Kristy; and only you can make the choice to get that help. I sincerely hope you will, because you deserve it.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 24, 2008
What the hell?!
by: Francine

WHAT THE HELL?!?!?! How dare your parents do such a stupid thing like that to you! You might want to seek counselling! You are not worthless! You are smart and special; don't ever let anyone think otherwise! You father is wrong to beat you; your mother so wrong to make and/or keep you sick all the time; your brother is wrong to rape you and they all knew it (even by heart)! I am sorry about what you had to go through. My parents yell at me, argue with me, and hit me, too, but they haven't done more than that! The only stupidity that I see comes from your parents and your brother. You deserve for them to say, "We are wrong. We are very, very wrong, and we apologize." You are worth the help and I hope that you get help right away cuz you're worth it. Take care, sweetie!

Jan 24, 2008
i love you
by: melanie

Kristy We have been through so much together in our lives. We have dealt with the same sadnesses and most of the same issues. We both got the raw end of the deal. But you are important to me. You are my best friend and you know I am always here, just like I always have been. You are worth so much more than you give yourself credit for. I love you kristy always remember that.

Jan 27, 2008
sad
by: Anonymous

that is really sad

Jan 27, 2008
CRAZY!!!
by: Anonymous

this makes me sooo sad...how are you doing now??you must be really scared by this and i hope you can forget. my prayers are with you sweetie

Feb 07, 2008
listen
by: Anonymous

i commend you on surviving however you need to know that this hurt that you have endured can help inspire others that they can make it theough anything.

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