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Feb 06, 2010
Kristen:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You need to be living in the Present moment, but instead, you live in the Past by believing the lies your mother told you. And they ARE lies. And even moreso, they come from a woman without any credibility whatsoever. Not only do you believe those lies, you keep telling them to YOURSELF. In essence, you've taken your mother's place. I did the same thing...until I learned and realized what I was doing to myself. This is ALL about changing what you think so that you can change how you act, Kristen. If not for you, for your precious children. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 08, 2010
I am not her child any more, yes I am because I'm her adult child.
by: maurice

Stop being the child/teenager your morher formed you to be she has no longer that control of YOU. For goodness sake and your own peace of mind say to her in a mature and adult way. Stop, Stop treating me and using me for your own inadequecies as a woman/mother/Adult. You need a load of help to stop treating me the way you do. Stay out of my life and my children life until you cop on, don't come near me, I will get you barred from coming within a certain distance of me and my family. I need to be the mother to my children that you were not to me. Your mother ruled and ruined your life. You are highly inteeligent, enough to know she did. Your almost 40 years of age acting as that child she made you. You know she is talking alot of crab, lies, and has the total wrong understanding of you NOW. You are her big Girl now, well and truly able to tell her so, Tell her she is wrong, tell her to get lost out of your life until she makes sense of that for herself. Be firm with HER, Be fair to her and try to be her friend if and when she realizes your age and your motherhood. Darlene certainly has given you food for thought to work on with her comment to you. Get a LIFE for yourself and your children. Stop acting the fooleen which you are not all your life. Take heed of Darlene and move on for your own sake and that of your children

Feb 24, 2010
I hear you
by: kim

41 years later I still live with the pain of my mom hating me and she says she doesn't but as a child now a adult you just know. I understand your hurt very much I still live mine everyday and will until I die.There are days when I think I have a hold on my demons but really there just quiet.Both of my parents think I'm a mistake and as a child I have over heard them say a black sheep of the family. When your a child you don't fully understand that comment until you begin to feel the pain that comes with it more and more each day.They never protected me growing up and I did pretty much what I wanted as long as it didn't effect them.A friend of my dad's felt my chest up when I was 8 and said,I can't wait to see them when you older. I was terrify of growing breasts.soo much more...but I understand...

Aug 14, 2013
You're Not Alone in This
by: sara

Kristen, I hear you. Do we have the same mother??

To Darlene: You give sage advice but my question is HOW do we change our Thinking about ourselves in the face of a lifetime of conditioning and brainwashing that began in childhood? How?

I confess I don't see how therapy will correct that kind of conditioning. And I have tried it. It may be a relief to share our secret. It may feel temporarily good to talk about it. It certainly will help us intellectually understand what has happened to us and what we need to do. But how will talking change the deep rooted conditioning that's been imprinted upon us? I mean, this stuff operates at the subconscious level within us. How is therapy going to even touch that let alone heal at that level? Did you undergo hypnosis to heal from your abusive past?

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