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Sep 29, 2009
 Even if it felt good, even if you had orgasms, it was still sexual assault...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

KJA, the only thing this site or anyone who visits it can offer is validation and encouragement. Your therapist is in a far better position to help you with your nightmares and fears. Please talk to him/her about all your feeling and fearing. And always remember, you were sexually molested, and no matter what, it was not your fault. Even if you found that it felt good, you were still sexually assaulted. Don't ever lose sight of that. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Sep 30, 2009
 At the time you knew no better, You were vunerable and innocent.
by: maurice

Don't keep blaming yourself. KJA great any one who arrives on Darlene Sight can just be themselves sharing their story to her and her many visitors. But remain annoymous at the same time. KJA you read Darlene's words to you in her comment. You can and will move on if you heed her loving trusting words to you. Your Therapist will see you right. When I was a younger boy at boarding school many of the senior boys would touch me up inapropriately in my genital area. Being an one sex school for awhile I thought too I might be male orientated in my sexuality. but then while on holidays I began mixing in with the boys and girls in my home town and found I was ok I was normal. If you get my drift. So be fair to yourself test the waters of realtionships and friendships with the opposite gender. I'm certain you will grow and mature in your mind and attitude as to your sexuality. You'll be fine, Always believe in yourself, Be sure to walk with your therapist She/He will widen your horizon of yourself. Great you can open up to your mother who is a true mother and loves you. She too will broaden your horizons. Being a chef ain't a bad thing after your learning to make cookies instead of playing football. Hi you're not over the hill yet, you could still become active and alive having a healthy mind in a healthy Body. Team sports can help one to grow up too. KJA be true to yourself, your Mam Family, Friends and God. I can, I will, I must, Kick your own bottom and get on with living your life to the full. Think positive, act positive, be positive in all you do and say. Live well, laugh alot, love much. See that hunk of a male in the Mirror and be proud of yourself. Darlene has surely said what she knows best to urge you into action. Let Go, get on with your life.
Oct 04, 2009
 So many things wrong
by: Anonymous

There are so many things wrong with what you said at the end. Sexual preference has nothing to do with what happened in your past, I was abused by a woman and I am very much heterosexual so never think he made you that way. Even if something feels good doesn't make it right and doesn't mean you asked for it or wanted it. Did you know that sometimes when people are raped they have an orgasm, this is the same thing, when you are molested as a child it pretty much is a nice way of saying they raped you. Now for the type thing, it could be linked to that but you just need to be aware that you are doing it, plus I have found it is always better to stay closer to your age anyhow. I always dated older guys and I ended up marrying a younger guy and he is way better than older guys. But never let him have that much control over your life, that is probably why you are having such a hard time moving on; he still has control over you and he doesn't know and you don't really see it either. You need to realize that what happened to you has effected you and lead you to where you are but it is not you.
Oct 11, 2009
 Child Abuse Story From KJA
by: KJA

I would like to thank you all for your kind words, i have gained a lot from this site, i know I'm not alone and that i wasn't at fault. Ty all.

From Darlene: You're welcome, KJA. I'm delighted that this site has helped you, and I hope it continues to do so. All the best to you.

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Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Jul 07, 2011
 Kyo
by: A Friend

You are a stong person. Never forget that. You may be lost or feel confused, but eventually you will find your way.

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