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May 20, 2013
Kevin:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Firstly, it took a great deal of courage to tell. And telling was a very important step for many reasons, not the least was to ensure you no longer are being abused. I commend and applaud your courage! Secondly, your parents are living in denial, and you're paying the price for this denial and their neglect. Thirdly, you didn't say what you posted your original post under, so I cannot make reference to your original post. Lastly, you're 17 and having to deal with this. Not fair, I know. When other 17-year-olds are planning for their future WITH their parents, you've been shunned for what wasn't your fault. And worse, not being believed. But Kevin, I KNOW that you are capable of making a plan so that you can eventually take care of yourself, on your own. Finish school, then look for ways to earn an income. I know that sounds simplistic, but that's what most of us have had to do. Rely on yourself to make a living. Don't rely on others to take care of you because if you do, you'll always be vulnerable. That doesn't mean you can't reach out for help, just be very careful about who you reach out to. Consider contacting ChildLine on 0800 1111. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childline.org.uk/Pages/Home.aspx

Start seeing yourself as powerful, Kevin. SEE yourself in the role you want to be in, in the circumstances that you want to live in. Your parents cannot be relied upon, but you can rely on your Self. Take back the power your abuser and your parents took from you. Don't allow what has happened to take you further down into victimhood. Understand that you are worthy of dignity and respect and love. Start by treating yourself with dignity and respect and love. You really are worthy of all that. I send you love, light and healing energy, Kevin. Thank you for sharing more of your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
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From Victim to Victory, a memoir

May 20, 2013
Thank you!
by: Anonymous

Kevin, your bravery will not only start you on a path to healing, it will help others gain the courage to do the same. One step and one day at a time do things to help better your life. Put yourself in the driverseat. Do not allow yourself to br a victim of circumstance. Write your own way now. I would love to give you a safe place to fly your wings from. You have come this far you can do it. Just don't leave out your creator cause he loves you and will help you if you ask for guidence and help. Do not forget to love, be cautious yes, but love will keep you from thinking bad thoughts. I wish you all the strength and courage and love from here on out.

May 22, 2013
Kevin,
by: AnonymousT

I am so proud of you. You showed such bravery and strength!!

Yes to everything Darlene said.

I just want to say, I know how tough it is when you're too young to live on your own.....and yet too old to keep living as you had.
I know this is hard. To tell, and have the abuse stop...only to be abandoned by the people you trust. I UNDERSTAND. Their inability to give you what you need does NOT remove your self worth. You deserve more than you've been given.

At this stage, this fork in the road, I IMPLORE you to talk to someone. Mr. D or the hotline...anyone you trust. You simply must have a release for your pain and talking/writing...wow, it can be powerful. Later on, when life is different you can look into counseling to help you deal with your emotions - but for now try and find someone you can talk to. It's soooooo important.

Also, books. The Courage to Heal is a good one. Read, educate yourself. Knowledge IS power, I promise.

I. Am. So. Very. PROUD. Of. You.

T

May 22, 2013
Kevin,
by: AnonymousT

Me again! I've just been thinking about you...

You're in the UK and I don't know how that's different from the US. Some kids are still 17 here when they finish school.
If you're not done yet, you can work part time. I know a lot of places pay better than you'd think. I can't help because you're in a different country but...do your research! Some coffee houses pay insurance here...
Grocery stores are good too here because you can often work your way up to higher pay, not sure if it's the same in the UK. Like I said, do some research. Google, ask around....

Once you're independent, the fear will leave. It IS POSSIBLE to work & go to school. You can do it!!!!!
Listen, you were brave and conquered an abusive person, you can get a job and get yourself to a safe place. I just KNOW you can do this, I have faith in you.

T(again)

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