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Aug 07, 2008
 You are PERFECT as you are...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Kelsey, it's always difficult being a victim of child abuse. It is so much worse when you are singled out for abuse. You're left asking: What did I do to make my dad hate me? What is wrong with me that he abuses only me? I'm here to tell you, Kelsey, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are PERFECT as you are. You've done NOTHING that warrants your father's treatment and rejection. HE is the one who is wrong here; not you. You did not deserve to be physically abused, or to be singled out for abuse. Nor do you deserve to be shunned by the man who is supposed to love, nurture and protect you. None of what your father has done to you physically, none of what he continues to do to you emotionally, was or is your fault. NONE OF IT! I say it, even though I know you are having trouble believing it.

You said you did not realize you were abused until you read a nonfiction book about child abuse. The way I see it, reading the book was an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself, as painful as that was. The more you learn about yourself and understand what you have come from, the greater the potential of not repeating the mistakes and misdeeds of your father in your future; a future that I believe is bright and teeming with potential. Don't let the lies your father has said to you about who and what you are hinder the truly wonderful person you are. You will never convince me that you are anything but a smart, articulate, caring and loving young woman.

You also said you think about suicide a lot. Kelsey, you don't want to die. What you want is to be free of the pain you feel, pain that is so deep it's unbearable, pain that is so deep it seems never-ending and threatens to consume you. I've felt that pain too. I also contemplated suicide as a teen. Thankfully, I didn't succeed. If I had succeeded, this website wouldn't exist today. If I had succeeded, you would not have been able to share your story with my visitors and me. If I had succeeded, I would not have been able to offer you words of encouragement and support today. We all have a purpose on this earth, Kelsey. Sometimes we can't see that purpose for the blinding anguish we face; but trust that as we gain strength, we also gain insight into that purpose.

I suggest you contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about your feelings. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose what has happened to you.

I do wish you all the best, Kelsey. You're worth it.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Aug 07, 2008
 Hang in there
by: Cassie1

ok uhmm my story is kinda similar to yours. I'm 14 yrs. old and my dad wouldn't beat me that bad... but he would also threaten to all that stuff... I am also still in that family... I have told people outside my family and it really helps.. But I told them before my family which was not a good idea... the fact that your family knows is very good... I understand not feeling confortable telling your friends. But it does help tremendously. I promise they won't think differently of you and they don't normally give you sympathy. Cause u will still be their true friend no matter what. Your still the same person in the inside to them. It helps then cause you don't have that secret hiding inside you building and building to come out. And it is also a good idea to call for help.. Your parents get help.. Cause even though it seems its better... it can get worse at a snap of a finger.. and you still don't have those parents that treat you right. When and if you call for help those people don't want to take you from your parents cause they know that thats not what you want. All they want to do is give you your parents back. By getting all of you help.. It may be hard but it will get better. I know this is a lot to handle. But I have faith in you.. I know you can handle it. Just take it one day at a time.. if you've shared your story on here... I can guarentee you can share it to your close friends. They will be there for you I promise. I know you have the courage to do what you need to do.. So I will leave it at that. Please don't ignore what I'm saying (I don't think you will anyways) but just take it in and think about it.. maybe it will make sense.. Well thankyou for sharing your story.. You have great courage just for that... and even more courage for reading this whole comment.

Stay strong, keep that faith, Never give up on yourself! We all know you can do it!
Cassie1

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