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Apr 11, 2010
Katelyn:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your dad is NOT a good dad; good dad's NEVER sexually molest their children. EVER. I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what you are dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse, which you should. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

And just for the record, you are NOT stupid. Your dad holds all the power and he's misusing that power. Please talk to someone about what he's doing to you. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Apr 12, 2010
Oh My Gosh!
by: Anonymous

Hi Katelyn...
I hope u r okay... I am prayin for you... I'm also your age but have neva been abused... I think when ur mom gets bak from her trip u must tell her and then if she doesnt help go to a teacher or a family friend... Don't let this carry on okay...

Apr 13, 2010
Please
by: Anonymous

You can stop him NOW if you tell someone. Please tell someone before its to late. You are so young and deserve to have a good life so please tell. Please.

Apr 14, 2010
You have love expressed for you in the comments written
by: maurice

Katelyn H don't stop at writing your story. Tell on that bad Father of yours: It is evil what he is doing on his beautiful child and daughter. Number 1 comment from Darlene take special heed of, her loving/caring words to you are the ones to heed. My care, love, concern for you are toatlly based on her true and professional words to you in what you shoud do. Her woman's heart sure is in those words for you. Both comments and mine are feeling for you. We are one in mind tell on that bad Father of yours. I pray when your mother returns you will sit down with her and tell her. If that is hard for you to do, then have a friend which I am certain you have who you have related in total trust what your Bad Father is doing to you. Sexually abusing you. with her find the strength to tell a Teacher, A school counsellor or Extended family member Grand-parent Auntie who you trust. who love you and care about your wel-being. Katelyn H. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body get out and about taking part with your friends and class mates in team sports and cultural activities. There is safety and natural growing up in such activities with your own age group. You build up healthy attitudes towards the opposite sex with your ever caring and protecting friends. You learn from each other. Always believe in yourself. I can: I will: I must just because I am WORTH it. build up your own self worth, your self esteem, like that wonderful me in the mirror. Hug and cuddle yourself. I am worth it.

Apr 14, 2010
He does need help
by: Mike

You are right. Your father needs help, badly and immediately. You love your father and don't want him to get in trouble, but the only way he's going to be helped is by telling on him. Don't let this go on any longer. He won't stop until you stop it.

Apr 16, 2010
It's getting better... I guess
by: Katelyn

Omg. Well my dad broke down and was like he's sorry for everything and he'll never hurt me again if me dnt tell my mom! so I was stupid and forgave him so like a week ago he did it agan :( . So I told my best frend. She said she was gonna tell her mom and dad but I told her not to! So anyway my mom comes back and I was like I'll tell her tomorrow. But the she had a stupid welcome back party. I dnt want to feel like the girl who ruined the family so I just shutup. My dad hasn't touched me yet so I decided not to call anyone or tell anyonE else unless he does it again. He still acts a little perverted though if we are alone. So I'll just have to see. Chances are he might do it again so i'll just have to prepare myself if he does. But all togethr things are getting a litl betr... I guess :)

From Darlene: Katelyn, I must ask you to please refrain from including your last name in your comments (the "Your Name" field within the comment page). I do not have access to this field and as such, whenever you leave your full name, I have to delete your comments and repost it as if I was a visitor myself. If it keeps happening, I will not be in a position to keep deleting and reposting; I'll instead have to simply delete the post. I know that sounds harsh, but this policy is in place in order to protect your privacy and to ensure you stay safe while on my site. I trust you understand my position, and I thank you for that understanding.

And Katelyn, the longer you wait to tell someone, the longer the abuse will go on. AND IT WILL CONTINUE. Of that, I'm sure.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Apr 16, 2010
We all love you, we care about you.
by: maurice

Katelyn H. Hi, you be safe, stay safe. You sure will go along way doing so if you follow the loving suggestions of Darlene. She knows what is the best for each of her visitors. That is her professional sensitivity to each one's story as well as her empathy with where they are coming from in their abuse. She is a winner over abuse, she is vitorious after being a victim. her affirming and empowering words to you means she cares about you and your safe place away from abuse. She is being firm with you, she is being fair to you she wants to be your mutual friend as she is to all her visitors. You'll be fine. Always believe in yourself.

Apr 16, 2010
He will do it again
by: Mike

Katelyn, Darlene is right. He WILL do it again. Very likely to you, but if he does stop hurting you, it will mean he's found someone else. What he has is a mental illness that does not go away. His sickness can't be cured, but it can be controlled, but only if he gets professional help and he won't do that on his own.

You can wait a day or 2 till the time to tell your mom is better, but don't wait too long. For your safety and for his own good, you can't keep it a secret.

Your mom should believe you when you tell her, but sometimes they don't because it's too hard to believe. If she doesn't believe you, let your best friend tell her parents, and with them, go to the police.

Apr 18, 2010
Katelyn
by: Anonymous

Omg like u guys were right he did do it again! This time it was in our pool and he was "teaching me how to swim" he was at first but everytime nno one was looking he start touching me oher places. When he was done I felt really sick and threw up like 4 times! And I cried for like allday! Anyway i told my mom and she said it was probaly a mistake and part of me wants to believe that because he hasn't touched me really since earlier. stupid right?. i STILL haven't told anyone besides my bestie bc Im so stupid I keep making excuses for him. Ugh! I haven't got up the coruage bc I'm just scared what will happen when everyone finds out! And I'll probaly never talk to my grandma because of this. And she'll probaly swear I'm lying. I just hate this and I wish he would be would just stop on his own. But anyway thnx for all the nice comments. And really I am sorry that I keep writing stories and stuff! Idk why I can't stop. I guess I just need to say what is on my mind to someone w/out anything bad happening. And also I feel kinda bad for evryone that is on here bc what is happening to me is nowhere nere as bad as evrone else.so I probaly won't write anything else until I say something which I have made up my kind I will do on Friday when me nd my mom are hanging out. So like sorry again for writing so much! And Ty fir all the nice comments:)

Apr 19, 2010
You don't need to be sorry
by: Mike

Don't be sorry about writing so much. Having a place to let it out does help you survive it and that's what this place is for.

I'm glad you will be talking to your mom on Friday. Don't change your mind or chicken out. No matter what happens between now and then, you still need to talk.

When you told her about the pool, she said it must have been an accident. Since she doesn't know about all the other times, it would be normal to think that. Now when you tell her about all of it, she might believe you right away, she might be in shock and have to think about it for a bit, she might say she doesn't believe you but change her mind after thinking about it for a bit, or she might just totally not believe you because she couldn't possibly believe that he could be a bad man. If she doesn't believe you, it might help if you tell her it doesn't have to mean he's bad, just sick. It's a mental illness and he needs help.

No matter how it goes, if your mom doesn't want to do something, go with your friend to her parents and tell them. Sometimes it's very hard for the wife of a molester to do anything because of love or even fear, but it's much easier for someone unrelated to do it.

The best thing for your father would be to admit he has a problem and get help, but if he won't admit that, he still needs help.

Apr 19, 2010
Just Like Me
by: Anonymous

Everything that you are going through I went through. I never told anyone what my father did and I didn't tell my mother. I have never confronted him and I just lived with it. Until I found a way to discourage him from coming into my room at night. It happened from the time I was about 9 until I was 12 years old. As far as I can tell he never touched my sisters, so it has led me to believe that maybe I am not his child. I mean how can a man do this to his own child? How can a child grow up and trust others when the person who was put there to protect her betrayed her trust? It has caused me to question myself and everyone I meet. I am overly protective of my children and I cannot not form lasting relationships with men and I seek out ones that I know will not last because I know in the end I will destroy it out of mistrust. I turn 37 years old tomorrow on the 20th of April and it is still affecting me. I know my father is/was sick and that it's not my fault and I know that I shouldn't blame or treat others badly because of his actions, but I can't help it. Get help now as soon as possible. Please do not turn into me. I want to be happy but I can't truly be happy until I resolve the issues of my past.

Aug 30, 2010
Katelyn
by: Kayleigh

Katelyn, you need to tell someone, before the situation worseness, i admire your bravery and hope you find the stregnth to get past all this abuse and get on with a normal life.
I wish you all the best & goodluck

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