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Nov 29, 2009
I believe you...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Karen, I believe every word. And everyone who visits this site IS listening. The fact that your brother's family isn't listening is so very typical. But their blinders are at the expense of the continued safety of the children he has fathered. Keep telling. Perhaps doing so will help to keep your nieces protected. As you said, your brother knows what he did to you, and now he knows you not only remember, but that you are not staying quiet.

I understand what you felt when you did that celebratory dance after you learned your stepmother had died. I don't see your actions as cruel; I see them as freeing, as relief that one horrible chapter of your life was finally closed. Her death was—and is—symbolic of that closure. How liberating it must have felt. As for not being able to confront her, you probably saved yourself more abuse. Confrontations are wracked with outright denials, minimizations, and/or the finger of blame is pointed at the victim. You've already experienced the outright denial by your brother (and family). You were spared all that with regard to your stepmother, as I'm sure she would have reacted using all three. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. If you feel the need, by all means you are welcome to write more, Karen.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Nov 29, 2009
courage
by: ginny

Karen

I hear you, and it took a lot of courage to talk about something that no one believes. But keep telling your story and stay focused on your goals and dreams keep those in the forefront of your mind and don't allow anything to get in the way of your dreams . What helped my inner rage was music.

Nov 30, 2009
Be brave, Be strong, Persevere being true to yourself
by: maurice

Don't Quit Karen W.I join with Ginny saying you were strong, courageous to tell your story to Darlene and her visitors. She truly knows the power her site gives you, me and others to sit in our personal space in our room or wherever that is for you and write ever so bravely detailing your Abuse. Since I found her site my room is a haven of love for her site and all her many visitors. Though we are distances apart the telling of our story to Darlene is the stepping stone to real healing if we are up to helping ourselves. We connect with human hearts each time we inter-act with each other. Your story, Darlene honours it with her professional approach as well as her heartfelt feelings of love, truth and honesty to you. I believe your story are true empowering words to you. You are one wonderful and beautiful human being of the female species. Ever so special, Unique, having endured all that you did at the hands of your cruel mother. A brother who knows he hurt you and won't admit it but blames you his victim. Hi, Karen W you are on the winning ways away from your abuse, Don't give in to what you know to be the truth in your heart, keep being re-assured by telling your story to the chosen few who believe in you. who love you genuinely, who listen with attentive ears and walk with with you in the truth of all that you had to work through. I am a believer in each one of us having a good mirror image of ourselves giving us wholesome self esteem and to really value who I am. Begin today, looking and seeing a wonderful and beautiful woman in the mirror. Say that is me he said that about. think positive thoughts/affirmations about yourself. I am beautiful I have a body which is mine and I am taking ownership of it now. Caress, cuddle, be gentle, kind and soothing of it all over, head to toes and the pretty in betweens. thay are all mine, someone damaged them by abusing me. I must soothe them back to being natural and real for me. I have a lovely etc, it is part of me and I love it. Your beauty comes from within you Karen W. so Always know and believe I am beautiful, I am special, I love me, I can, I will, I must just for ME.

Jan 06, 2010
Secrets Get Deeper
by: Karen W

Last month, upon cleaning out our attic my husband and i ran across some of my sister's things she left here after we kicked her out. My husband and i had discussed on numerous occassions how I looked like noone in my family. So, we decided to find out. We got a DNA test on the toiletry items she left here. Turns out, my father is not my father. My sister and I only share our mother's dna. Maybe this is for the best. i can cut them all loose. They call me angry. Damn right I am angry. But, I think I feel sorry for them more than i am angry now. Like I told the man I always thought was my father in an email tonight, house of cards only stand for so long and their's are starting to crumble.

Thanks everyone for being here through this difficult time.

Jan 07, 2010
Hi Always believe in yourself.... Don't Quit Now.
by: Maurice

Karen W my heart goes out to you this 7th day of 2010 our New Year. Be brave, stay strong and persevere LOVING the wonderful and beautiful you. I pray your inner believe in yourself will bring true peace of mind to you and all around you who really love you for who you are now. Keep letting Go Karen of anger and the traumatic memories of all that you were put through. Think of Darlene's change of name for her Life's Story From Victim to Victory. She's the Angel from on HIGH for each of us to Believe we are vitorious ove r our own abuse having worked at the healing process she suggested we needed to go through. She's our inner strength and guide to continue loving and believeing in the wonderful and beautiful people we are NOW. LOVE the wonderful and beautiful ME in that Mirror Karen W New Beginnings New Hopes as your New Years resolution I will be gentle, kind, good at loving myself and believeing in Myself during 2010. Era Go on Go On. Hug yourself and all the love your body can take this very day. It ain't a silly thing to be asked to do. Let those you love, trust, respect hug more love into you and you them. I WILL, I CAN, I MUST.

Jan 11, 2010
Found another outlet
by: Karen W

I am staying strong. I get stronger as each day passes. I found another outlet as well. I created a myspace page talking about my abuse. I also went as far as putting it in my story on Classmates. Now, everyone in Stonewall, Louisiana will know about the little house of horrors I grew up in.

Darlene, I was having problems getting on Facebook, so, had to deavtivate my account temporarily. Grrrr....YOU, Ms. Darlene is one of the reasons I decided to speak out! Thank you for this site.

From Darlene: Oh, Karen, what a compliment! Thank you so much. But I must also say that you still had to do the writing and sharing; and that you did! You should be so proud of yourself; I'm sure proud of you.

I will pass along some information about MySpace. I've recently learned that it will be turning into a strictly music-focused site, so you might find yourself looking for another outlet. Facebook isn't always completely reliable, but for the most part I've found it works alright. I've been fortunate in that I haven't had to deactivate my account...yet. Keeping fingers crossed.

But back to you...keep speaking out. You'll find it cathartic, and you will help others by doing so.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Jan 13, 2010
MY SAFE HAVEN
by: Karen W

Darlene, I find myself here on CAE regularly anymore. This is my little home-away-from-home. I sat and read Mary's 5 part story and almost cried. Poor girl! I want to try and be an active part of other's trying to heal. You were so inspirational to me, i want to pay it forward! We love you, Darlene!!!!

From Darlene: Once again, Karen, you honour me with your lovely and loving words. You are being such an active part of others' healing by leaving the amazingly supportive comments you leave for others. I've just release several of them. Between you, Maurice, and so many others who prefer to remain nameless, this site continues to grow and be a safe haven. Thank YOU! I am SO blessed.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir



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