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Mar 07, 2009
Juan is a sex offender who needs to be reported...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Karen, I'm so glad that your dad stepped up and got you out of that house, and that you have two very good friends who are helping you through the process of what you've endured.

Your mother's boyfriend is a sex offender, and sex offenders do not change their ways. I do hope your sister Adriana is also out of that home, because she's now in danger of being offended against, if she hasn't already been.

Your mother betrayed your trust and she failed to protect you from the man she wants in her life. I can't tell you how good it is to know that you have learned that what happened to you was not your fault, because it wasn't your fault. Blame lies squarely on the shoulders of Juan; and to the degree that your mother enabled that sexual abuse, she is every bit as responsible. She needed to act, and she didn't. The courage it took for you to disclose, and then to be told she didn't believe you...your feelings of betrayal and abandonment must have been overwhelming, especially after she told you she would believe you if you ever said that Juan was abusing you. I can certainly understand why you would cry so hard, and why you would see things as though your mother had died. In a sense, she did.

While I applaud your father taking you away from that environment, I still believe it's important for the authorities to know what this man did to you, because he is likely doing the same to others, possibly your own sister.

If you need someone to talk to about all this, Karen, I suggest you contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the sexual abuse. And I hope you do.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Karen, and for the very important message about blame.

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Mar 09, 2009
you did the right thing
by: jennifer

you did the right thing by leaveing the house if you've read my story child abuse story from jennifer part three im scared to death to leave and even be around when hes drinkin cause im scared of what he can do but i know that leaving is the best thing for me and my mom and darlene has helped me with that. ur a survivor just like me and i hope that u do good in your life.

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