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Sep 21, 2007
Trust is earned
by: Darlene Barriere

Kailum, your father hasn't earned your trust--just the opposite--so I'm not surprised that you don't trust him. I wouldn't either. You said: you do not hate your dad, but that you do not like him. Very understandable. No one would expect you to "like" someone who was so abusive toward you. And I'm not surprised at the way you lashed out when you were hurting.

I'm delighted that you are now with your mother and happy. You've definitely earned happiness in your life. I do hope that you are able to talk to someone about the feelings you have, someone who can help you find a way to deal with them when they crop up. You're worth that kind of help.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 21, 2007
My son was in the same situation
by: Steph

Good for you that you have had a relatively peaceful year. My children and I are in a similar situation. My ex won primary placement and he was the abuser. My son was hit, choked, etc. It was near daily for about a year. His grades declined, he started getting into trouble with the law. Two months prior to turning 18, he ran away for good after the last assault from his dad. Although he turned 18 he is now spending a lot of time with me, otherwise he is homeless. My son wouldn't tell for fear of being killed, since he was threatened a lot. He had to feel safe enough to tell, which he finally did after about 4 months away from his dad's house.

My son seems to be dealing with things OK, he's looking for work and has established some goals for himself.

You might want to check out my kids' story through this site: Legal system fails, cycle of abuse continues

Sep 21, 2007
:)
by: natasha

i'm happy that finally u get the life u wanted

Sep 21, 2007
HELLO
by: suresh

hie there when this has happen it is sad to hear your story because as a dad he should play a big role in you by supporting you and not just whacking you and when this happen it is bad for him to just ground you for no reasons because everyone have the rights to go out and not just sitting and grounding every person. So when this happen then you should complain it to the child abuse department and not just receiving it.

Dec 07, 2007
HEEL
by: sally poo

pleez...i hope u heel and god bless ur big heart

Jan 14, 2008
update
by: Kailum

I have just finished reading my court files and I have learned of terrible things. My mother was never a good mother and still isn't. I have learned thatif childrens aid and my grandma had not stepped in I would have died from neglect and starvation on my mothers part. My mom resently told me that I am no longer her daughter, which hurt but I am over it. I no longer have respect for her.

The only happiness I have in my life is my boyfriend who I love more than anyone. I actually never knew it was possible to love and trust someone so much and not get hurt by that person.

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