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Oct 12, 2012
Justin:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're perfect as you are. Always believe that. Clearly, your father has a twisted sense of what it means to be a father, but mostly, what it means to be a son. You're a beautiful person. And when others can't or won't see that, that's THEIR issue, not yours. You say you're a "handful", have a violent streak and mouth off. These aren't traits that are being true to Who You Really Are; these are symptoms of what you endured and how you are now trying to exert control in ways you never before had. You're also exhibiting anger and hostility that's misplaced. While you have a right to feel as you do, you never have the right to hurt, harm or disrespect the people who care about you and treat YOU well. You need help healing with your misplaced anger and hostility, Justin. You need to be able to express that anger and hostility in safe ways, ways that will help you to vent so that you can get to a place where those issues no longer rise to the surface. You DO have control, but you'll need help finding it. Please talk to your foster parents and social worker about getting some form of counselling to help you deal with what you endured and the long-lasting effects. I also understand your reluctance to be open about your sexual orientation. It really isn't safe to tell everyone. Just be confident in Who You Really Are, which comes from deep inside your Self. And love your Self, Justin. That's the key. And when you DO love your Self, all that violence will fall away. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Oct 12, 2012
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Justin, I can't believe that your mom would abandon you to that sick, deeply-troubled, sadistic monster of a father and allow him to beat and berate you 24/7; how dare she! That's not even discipline; that's just torture. What a sad, sorry excuse of a man he is. Help yourself instead of him; he's the adult who needs to help himself; if he refuses to do just that, then that's his own issue. I'm glad you found your way out; don't be alone with your abusers ever again! You are not to blame for his sadistic behavior. I'm glad you're in a safe place now; I just hope he remains incarcerated for all those terrible crimes that he committed against you.

Oct 14, 2012
Comment deleted by Webmaster
by: Anonymous

From Darlene - Webmaster: Justin, and my other visitors to this thread, I've deleted at least one comment from this particular commenter who leaves posts that are judgmental and wholly inappropriate. I cannot block her, but I'll continue to delete her comments before they ever go live on the site.

Oct 22, 2012
Be yourself and i understand your suffer
by: Johnny

Justin you had bad parents who makes you suffer and treat you bad.i understand your pain.no one had no pain.be the best to be happy now and enjoy your life and live it without the past.you have only today and use your time and forget about the past.it will not returns and you have the future to work fot and makes your life better.let me say you something as an advice from a brother not an order:do not run away from a problem to another more bad,do not run away from the tiger to hide in a hole you can not go out.Be strong and work for yourself first.
My respect.

Oct 23, 2012
You're going to be okay.
by: Kris

Justin, you are a wonderful person. You are brave and kind and honest, and as much as this horrendous experience has left lasting effects on you and your behavior, you are also stronger for it. The fact that you stood up to your father and you laid it all out there is evidence that you are extremely brave, wise and of good character. You can clearly succeed in life...in SPITE of your parents. You have seen the dark side and can make your own life; make the choices you know to be best and never be like your father. He was living as an animal: indulging whatever whim came to him, centered only around himself with no thought for the well-being of others, even his own family. Not human... beast-like. He is your father, so it is very hard to detach yourself emotionally from him, but this is not a creature you should involve yourself with anymore. He was always gone, since the day he started loving alcohol more than his family...which clearly was at least since you were a young child. You should never lower yourself to try and meet his "standards" anymore. He's a grown-ass man and his problems are his own. But now he is gone! He won't hurt you again. You're free. The rest of your life is up to YOU. I hope you do right by you. Sending lots of love. :~)

Feb 04, 2013
So little love shown...
by: Anonymous

Justin, my heart goes out to you. All those years of trying to please your father and not experiencing love; all those years of trying to protect your mother out of love and not receiving love. Thank goodness you're in a safe place now because your foster parents are so sweet for doing that!

Apr 23, 2013
Embrace yourself entirely
by: Ann

Hello Justin.
Please get counselling to deal with your violence so that you do not allow the pain inflicted upon you to hold you prisoner.

Life is too precious and too short to spend one day; one minute allowing the ignorance, abuse from others to deny you all that is great and glorious that you so rightly deserve.

Please do not spend the next decade hurting yourself on any level. Or, doubting yourself.

Too many people spend years before they realize that being True to themselves is the greatest gift.

Wishing you love, laughter and a life full of opportunity‚ô•

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