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May 01, 2013
Julie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

As I see it, you are not a grown woman, married with children, a nurse looking for love that you'll never receive. It's the 5- and 8- and 11- and 13-year-old young girl who is still looking for the love she never received. When our needs are not met as children, we can get stuck in those times. That's what's happened to you. And as an adult woman now, you understand on a logical level that your mother is not capable of giving you what you need because she's gone. But on an emotional level, you still want and need that love, which is perfectly natural. Your mother couldn't, wouldn't and didn't give you that love, so now you must find a way to give it to your Self. When you apologized to your mother while she was on her deathbed, and then told her you loved her, I suspect you were trying to open the door for her to tell you she loved YOU. Perhaps you're angry that you told her at all, AND apologized for something that you didn't do. Perhaps you wanted her to apologize back. And now the seething continues. Try putting things in a different context, Julie. You KNOW you were good, and always were good. You KNOW you were lovable and deserved to be treated with dignity and respect and love. It's your MOTHER who lost out. She was the one who didn't have a wonderful, loving and beautiful daughter in her life! SHE paid the ultimate price for her lack of presence; she didn't have you in her life. BE the mother you never had, and find healing power in that, Julie, because that's where it lies. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 01, 2013
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by: Anonymous

Julie, I'm sorry for what you've gone through.

I know someone who has a son and, even though, sadly, he's disabled, she kept giving him as much tools as he needed to eventually succeed; your mom did NOT give you that; instead, she just kept it from you. As for your brother, well, it's a shame that he committed suicide because he should've gotten as much help as he needed. As for that pervert, he should've gone to jail for molesting you. TELL, TELL, TELL!!! Oh, and just because no one listened to you back then, that doesn't mean they still won't listen to you now because I'm already listening.

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