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Aug 10, 2013
Jrena:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your brother was not to blame for the way he was. Your parents were to blame. They groomed him, which is very easy to do with young children. and you said yourself, he'd been taught since infancy. Any animosity you feel toward him for his role as a child is misplaced. Your parents targeted you. They are responsible for all the acts of violence and for every act of teasing your brother did. As a young boy, he simply didn't have the wherewithal to understand what he was doing. This is all on your parents. If you haven't already, check out my article on this site titled Why Parents Targets a Specific Child for Abuse. You might find it helpful. Just know that none of what happened was your fault. There was nothing flawed about you. There was nothing wrong with you. Your parents saw you as their way to vent and release. But that doesn't mean they were right. In fact, any negative messages they send you about yourself were lies. Pure lies. Try re-framing your perspective on what happened to you. That's not to say excuse their behaviour. What I'm saying is that as long as you hold onto the anger and hostility, you're the one who lives in a prison. When you change your perspective, you change the way you feel about it, which can change everything. I send you love, light and healing energy, Jrena. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Aug 10, 2013
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Jrena, your parents are deeply troubled and sadistic. I know you wanted love from them, but they're just too dangerous to even be trusted. Your parents even went so far into setting you up for failure. That isn't about teaching you table manners; that's just all about power and control. Your parents are very manipulative and it seems to me that they really wanted you to fail, just so they could keep controlling you. I've been there. Anyway, none of that crap is your fault; it's their own fault; they just refuse to accept their own responsibilities for what they chose to put you through. I really hope you're in a safe place now; if not, PLEASE GET OUT OF THAT HOUSE; PLEASE GET OUT NOW!!! Next time they lay a hand you again, please consider reporting them to the cops on them ASAP. Children are gifts to treasure, not to abuse. Oh, and I know what it's like to have been born into a house where such people did NOT want you be a girl when you were born; my family, too, never wanted a girl when I was born; they only wanted another boy instead of a girl and I've been there.

Aug 13, 2013
Plase don't give them what they want...
by: Anonymous

You don't have to even continue living this way. Your parents have been abusing you. Seriously, do you really want to keep feeling sad and depressed because of your abusive parents? It's their OWN fault, not yours. If you keep feeling this way, then it'll only be giving them what they want. Honestly, have you tried calling the cops (or even talking to the school counselor) yet? You can become so much stronger than this and overcome the abuse. If you still really want to call the cops, though, you might want to gather some proof, so you can get out of that hellhole ASAP and probably live with another relative (especially if that relative is a sympathetic one) or some other person that's qualified to take REAL parental care of you. As for your brother, your parents must've abused him in a more insidious way; I'm sure that they were probably teaching him to be an abuser himself. Brothers are supposed to help their siblings, not the other way around! Anyway, I will pray for you and if you think that no one s on your side, think again because Darlene and I are on your side and so is Jesus, but you might want to give him a chance first. Stop the cycle NOW! It's never too late. Have you considered reading that book called "A Child Called It"? It's a good book and, despite his mom abusing him, the author forgave her and even managed to learn from his mistakes and even take good care of his future kids. Anyway, peace out.

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