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May 10, 2010
John:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's not unusual for people to brush off sexual abuse of boys at the hands of girls as some sort of rite of passage or as nothing to be "bothered" about. These people are ignorant; they simply don't understand the repercussions. You were sexually abused, and the measure isn't the abuse itself; rather, it's the effects of that abuse. What happened to you as a little boy was not your fault. As an adult, if you continue to blame that teenage girl for the decisions you continue to make as an adult, you will not make any changes in your life. I strongly suggest you seek out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of being abused so you can put your life on track with what you really want it to be. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 11, 2010
There is life after having been abused
by: Maurice

I think what happened me as a Kid ruined my life: That is a negative staement about yourself: Yes your life seems to have ended up in a mess: But don't quit belieeveing in yourself: Don't Quit Don't give up on yourself: Darlene as always has spelled it out for you: The rest of your life will not be ruined if you truly want to act on what she has advised and suggested: Yes that 15 year old Baby Sitter abused the trust put in her by your parents, she too was a child'teenager when she did wrong to you: That clown of an Uncle certainly abused you too by not doing something about her: Not a nice Man: Sadly we can use what happened us as children not to learn from: With counselling John S you have a life ahead of you to live to the full: I understand from your story that is what you want to do: You may feel you are at the lowest ebb in your life right now but the only way back is up. Think about that John S: If you are serious enough you will follow Darlene's loving, re-assuring words and get back on track: I can>I will>i must because i Know I am WORTH it:
Get a life, live it to the full, don't keep dwelling on the negative about what that fifteen year old did to you: Learn from it and move on: It was not your fault, don't blame yourself< You need alot of LOVE in your life NOW; Firstly you begin to LOVE yourself and then value and respect the good Man you are NOW; Wanting to change is one thing, Making the change makes the difference

May 11, 2010
Oh I know The Pain
by: Anonymous

Dear John:

I share in your childhood pain through sexual abuse. I was abused by all of my siblings. This was a very very bad thing that they did. I realize this and understand that it had a great impact on both of my failed marriages. I want you to know this though, Darlene is right, you must overcome this in order to be successful and move on in your life. I have found in order for me to move ahaid no matter what the pain and concern against me I had to forgive not for them, but for me! I had to surrender the garbage to the garbage man. We change our lives by changing the negative singnals and subconcious messages we feed ourselves everytime we mention and or repeat the painful garbage in our lives. Release it John for Youmy friend. and you sir will see a total turn around in your life. I am and will continue to walk that same advice daily as it truly is a daily walk. Best of the Best to you John.

Darrell :-)

May 16, 2010
What males have to go thru.
by: Dan1

I hate it how when ever boys get assualted by girls, its never a big deal to most of society. I remember hearing a couple of times when I was teen that boys shouldn't whine when girls touch them, and if they don't like the "touch" the boy is considered gay. That's how most of the world see's it but I think that's BS because it is just as bad. I hope you're doing fine and going to counselling. I guess I feel your pain too, only I was assualted by a male and I hate him more because it was at church. I wasn't able to trust any adult and I hated my fellow men after that. I looked at every adult as a rapist, and I'm still going thru that at times. I know this sounds wrong but I would of accepted more getting touched by a women even though the repercussions are the same. I wish you the very best in getting your life back on track. I sort of did and I know you will too. There's a lot of help for you out there. Its all a matter of if u want to get help. Be safe and live life.
Always by yourside
Dan1

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