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Mar 03, 2008
Two mothers who have a lot to answer for...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Jenny, your mother knew Jim was a molester (by personal experience) yet she still put you and your sisters in harms way by allowing him into her home to spend the night! Her actions not only set you up for sexual abuse by this offender, they led you to him like a sacrificial lamb. Regardless of the pain she endured in childhood and well into her adulthood, her job as your mother was to protect you and your sisters. Yes, your grandmother continues to live in denial—she failed to do her job as a mother AND grandmother—but your mother has a whole lot to answer for as well. This does not in any way shift the blame from Jim. He should have been in prison for his criminal acts against helpless children. But there were people in your life who could have stopped the sexual abuse from ever starting, yet they either did nothing, or waited to do something until it was too late.

For the benefit of all my visitors, I must say that forgiveness is NOT tied into the offender or abuser apologizing and/or admitting to any wrongdoing. Forgiveness DOES NOT say what he did was okay. Forgiveness DOES NOT say that you love him. Forgiveness says that you no longer give up your power to him; and as such, it allows you to move forward. And it sounds as though you are moving forward, Jenny. Congratulations!

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Mar 06, 2008
He doesn't deserve forgiveness
by: Linda

That man doesn't deserve your forgiveness, Forgiving him makes his behavior acceptable. What he did was unthinkable and disgusting! Your mother and grandmother are as guilty as he is by allowing him to stay in your lives, knowing what he was capable of. Good luck to you.

Mar 06, 2008
sorry
by: Anonymous

im sorry thaat happened to you and im glad you came out the bigger person in this situation

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