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May 02, 2013
Jen:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

No answer I give you will ever be enough. No answer will ever truly answer the questions you ask about your father. No matter how many things I say here to give you a run down of what your father may have lived as a child himself, or what might have happened in his own more recent life to bring him to such a terrible place and do the horrible things he's done, it will never adequately explain it to you. Seeking for the answer(s) will not help you at this stage of your life. Instead, look inward. Know that you've done nothing wrong. Know that you didn't deserve abuse. Give your Self the dignity and respect and love you so crave from your father, (and your mother, too). People make choices in their lives that can often have a negative effect on others, particularly when these people have children. Your mother's choices put you all in jeopardy. And your father's choices brought jeopardy into your lives. You're worthy of dignity and respect, so give it to your Self first. And try not to close your heart. Though it may sound like the way to protect yourself at this point, it will bring on more dysfunction as you move further into the ages and stages of your life. Stay true to Who You Really Are—and that is LOVE. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and healing energy, Jen.

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Darlene Barriere
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May 13, 2013
Love Yourself
by: Wanita Metoyer

Your story is sad and touching Jen. I want you to know, that as a victim of abuse, you will indeed find it hard to trust others...but you have to start somewhere! First, I can tell you are a strong young lady. I can tell that you love your mother and siblings. It is clear that this is the reason you haven't told your mother about what happened to you!!! BUT YOU MUST! It is the first step in healing yourself! It is very likely that because of your sisters condition, he may abuse her too...since she can't tell anyone!!! There is HELP out there..but you have to seek it out. You have made a start by posting your story!!! DO NOT GO BACK THERE...NO MATTER WHAT YOUR MOTHER SAYS! She needs to seek out help too! If she doesn't, she will ruin any chance of a better life for you and your siblings!!! I have been thru what you are going thru...from ages 9-14...and I KNOW how important it is to get HELP! I am 35 years old...and I am still hurting. It does not go away, but as Darlene said, you have to look within!!!

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