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Mar 24, 2010
Jean:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 24, 2010
one day at a time
by: Anonymous

I knew a family in my child care who had a brother who abused him, anger seemed a problem with him the abuser not the victim, divorce and family issues became the real reason this child had trouble , later , he barely remembered the abuse the social worker told me. blaming your self i dont think so good for you , i found out in normal family where other issues come up they get mixed up everything becomes one issue
or blamed this one thing happen to you
you didn t seem so well unhappy about him dying
and also where were your parents divorced or never there. i think in normal families or in dysfuntional families issues get mixed up
when you have alot going wrong or going on and i learned to sort out what issues went with what so i can live life happy

and sound typical but take one day and one thing at a time . dont make decisions under pressure make big changes when under pressure

this helped me
with my what i feel normal family

no one in my family abused each other but i have close friends went thru and took care of children went thru this i helped thier parents
and them.


Mar 25, 2010
find yourself first
by: Eileen

You just need to find yourself, who you are, then you can worry about wether you want to be in a relationship. Find forgiveness in your heart for your mistakes, the blame game worked for me for a long time. Then I realized I have choices, I am not that abused kid anymore. find out who you want to be, or every relationship will end the same way. Please forgive the past, and love yourself, you didn't cause all this mess, but you can make it stop. Talk to someone, share your heart, like you started to here. You are brave and smart. I hope we all realize we have made mistakes, because we didn't know how to act and we are vengful because of our past. Not everyone is mistrustful, but I have a hard time seeing that. I almost cause them to screw up. I push them away, but they are my bad choices, so desperate for love. I let people away with so much and then I explode. I keep thinking I have caused it. I do sometimes. I have to keep reminding myself, I have to know who I am before I can figure out who is worthwhile, around me. I just have to keep pushing myself to be myself first. We don't need a partner to be whole. YOu are a great person you have reached out, keep reaching and keep forgiving yourself and be the great human being you are capable of being, then the love you want will come naturally. Forgiveness is the key. and the hardest part. Good Luck and we will all be praying for you and the rest of us who have been damaged. But we are reparable with forgiveness. Eileen.

Mar 25, 2010
Don't give up on YOURSELF.
by: maurice

Jean you truly have been abused, That brother of yours certainly did not value you or resepcet you as his sibling and beautiful sister. He can't harm you any more. Those two so called of the male species abused you, used you. 3 males not worth their S pardon my expression. Jean you are a much stronger woman than you imagine. You are intelligent. You know what not to look for in a relationship. Don't give up on yourself. Build up your own self esteem first NOW. don't go into a relationship untill you are ready for it. Trust yourself but there are good and respectful males out there. Have a friend in your life, the gem we all need to have. A good friends will walk with you, stand by you, help you to make sense but above all will listen to you. Then get that friend to help you get counselling. Oh yes Jean that is a must for you. A therapist will allow you to make sense of what has happened you in abuse and your bad experiences. Help you to LOVE yourself. Stay with this site and from time to time speak you feelings. You have Darlene and her many visitors who want the bsst for you here to share with you as respecting caring compannions on your journey. Always believe in yourself Jean

Mar 25, 2010
Same here
by: Anonymous

Jean, I am so sorry that you didn't have a good brother nor equally good husbands. I can relate; my brother, too, abused me and my boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend), too, was unfaithful to me just three weeks ago so we broke up at that point. Anyway. I hope that you try counselling and that you will someday be in a safe place now, away from those playboys for ex-husbands. Be brave, Jean, and stay strong.

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