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Apr 18, 2009
He did this TO you, not WITH you...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Janna, you need to tell someone what Ricky did to you. He has very likely molested other girls, and likely is STILL molesting. Young girls are not safe around him.

You were sexually assaulted, whether or not there was actual penetration, whether or not the touching went further than what you described. If he hadn't been interrupted by the sound of footsteps or someone coming up the stairs, he would have gone further. Ricky is a sex offender. And make no mistake: he did this TO you; you did not do it WITH him. He molested you, Janna...the fact that you put the 'we' in single quotations I hope says that you understand this on all levels. He took advantage of your youth, he took advantage of your vulnerabilities and he took advantage of your naiveté. He was the adult; you were the child. As a child, you were powerless against him. Afterward, you were afraid, too afraid to tell, in part because you thought you did something wrong, in part because you might have been scared that no one would believe you. Janna, I'm here to tell you that you were not the one who did something wrong. NONE of this was your fault. Blame lies squarely on his shoulders. Don't ever forget that.

You did not say how old you are, so I do not know if you are still a minor or if you are now an adult. Either way, talk to someone about what you went through. If you are a minor, perhaps there is someone in your family, or a friend, or a counsellor/teacher at school. Consider contacting Kids Helpline in Canada at 1-800-668-6868. They are staffed with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you and help you with your options. You can remain anonymous if that's more comfortable for you.

Janna, keep in mind there is no statute of limitations on reporting child abuse in Canada. You can make a report no matter how long ago the sexual abuse (or any other kind of abuse) took place. Reporting what Ricky did to you could prevent someone else from being sexually assaulted by this pervert of a man. I suggest you read K's story, a story I posted live on this site this morning. Reading K's story might help you to see things in a different light.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 19, 2009
Janna, Be brave, Be strong
by: Maurice

Hi Janna, great you found the haven of Darlene's site. Your safe telling her and her many visitors your abuse story. He was not a nice man at all. A friend of your family doing what he did to you makes him a dangerous man around other children girls. So Janna, with your Mam or indeed your closest friend whom I am sure you told intimately about what he did to you as frinds at school. I know Darlene has given you the best guidelines and love words of encouragement how to go about telling. I know you are a caring woman and have a genuine love for Children who might be molested by this man. He being an adult is sick and this is his way of abusing innocent girls/children. Please make a safe world for them to grow up in Janna. Say I'm Special and I can do it. You knew what he was doing was not right so then you can make it safe for other girls the age you were when he did to you. Janna thank for sharing your what looked like an innocent bit of tickling but really he was abusing your innocence. God be with YOU.

Apr 20, 2009
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by: miya

i would tell i wouldnt be scared even if someone sweard to abuse me i would tell the police or anyone immedeatly

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