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Aug 09, 2013
Jan:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The system was not only not there for you, they enabled the abuse to continue. You and your brother (all your siblings) were vulnerable. Child Protective Services was put in place to ensure children were protected, but in your case, they put you in harms way. You're a little bit younger than I am, but we are from the same era, an era where children simply weren't believed. It's mind-boggling that a social worker, the entire agency, would not twig to the fact that this foster dad was a danger to children when those charges came up. But what's important now is that you don't believe your life was or is "ruined". You had no control over the abuse. The control and power was with the abuser and those that enabled it. You DO have power now. You DO have the ability to overcome the adversity you faced. When we believe our lives have been ruined, then we continue to give up our power to our abusers. That's not what you want. You're abuser can no longer abuse others because he's dead. But that also means he can no longer abuse you, unless you let him. Whenever you go with a limiting belief (that you cannot live your life to it's fullest because you were abused by him) you allow your Self to be abused yet again. Stop[ the cycle, Jan. You're too worthy not to. Forgetting probably isn't in the cards. After all, how can we forget such heinous acts, much as we'd like to. What IS in the cards is your strength. Your power. And trust me, you have both in spades. Take back your power, Jan, and follow your heart. Treat your Self with the love you never received. Because it's in that love that you will find even more of your power. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Aug 10, 2013
I'm with you
by: Anonymous

Hi Janet your story had me in tears. I'm really sorry for what happened to you and you didn't deserve any of that. You didn't deserve to be abandoned by your mother, you didn't deserve the maltreatment from your foster dad and you didn't deserve the way the system failed you. I'm glad your foster dad can never hurt anyone now and I'm also glad you've moved on and got through it with strength and power. You are so very strong! I wish the best for you and your future. God bless you!

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