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Mar 07, 2012
Jackie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The pain you're in is as a result of all that happened to you in the Past. What you endured continues to haunt you today, in part because you've been burying all the emotions attached to it for all these years. You were taught that by a mother who was completely unavailable, unapproachable and uncaring as a result of all she endured. You were essentially betrayed and abandoned by the very people responsible for keeping you safe. The abusers in your life had all the power when you were younger. Now that you're an adult, you must take that power back. Planning to take your own life basically sends the message that all your abusers win. Jackie, you've survived the worst of it! Always remember that. And when others say or do things now that put you in a dark place or point the finger of blame to you, where it do NOT belong, they are the ones who don't know what they are talking about. Contact a crisis center to learn if there are any resources available to you. You didn't deserve to be abused or assaulted. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. And your daughter deserves a mother who is present and healthy. I send you love, light and healing energy, Jackie. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 07, 2012
Remember
by: Anonymous

I would like you to remember that just because your daughter will turn 20 one day, that does'nt mean that you will stop being her moother or that she will stop needing a mother.

Mar 08, 2012
You can be free
by: Rita M

Hi Jackie!!
I understand what you have ben through.You had 2 parents that were not interested in you.That had nothing to do with you at all.It was your parents
that were disfunctional.You were born into a disfuntional family.I am sorry that you were raped
and assualted.You understand things now that you are an adult.You have a daughter that neads you.
The thing here is that now-a-days there is lots
free unlimited help with councellers that specialise in depression and childhood issues.
I have gone through a very rough childhood and raped and abused and felt like life was not worth it.I went on for years telliong people about my abuse and my anger that I kept inside.Over the years I started to realize how important life is and how much fun it is and wanted a chance like many other people have.I started getting therapy
and told my story and as I could hear myself talk
and confide in the therapist I started thinking different in ways that I thought were not possible.These were possitive turn arounds.Therapists are there to listen to all of your emotions wether it is sad,happy angry or whatever.They care and understand.I have spoken to people that said therapy doesn't help.You know that you are worth more than to listen to that kind of negative talk.I went right against people that said there was no hope for me and pushed negative people out of the way and started
being in a possitive surrounding.I wanted to start living and see what life has to offer.I wanted to die too.What for?Because I was hurt?I finally came to an understanding that the abusers
would win and they don't deserve that.I remember a particular women who said I would never mount to anything.That is what gave me the motivation.Oppostion.I was told I would never be a seamstress.I later taught myself to sew and put things on market.Later these people came to me and apopogized to me for saying that and were ashamed for what they said.Life is a beautiful gift.You take control and show them and just indulge and help yourself along with the help of a therapist.I am recovered.It took a while but it was worth it and will be a part of my life
am worth it and have found that I have many skills.I am sure that you are the same way.It's like getting into a car with confidence and being the driver and controlling the car.The amazing thing is I have peace now.I admire you for telling your story.That is because you have strength and didn't realize it.I reach out to people and understand them.You can do the same thing.I know you can.Youv'e shown your strength here on this site.You are an amazing surviver.Show your daughter that you are available
for her.She knows you love her and she wants you to continue to be apart of her life.You will make it.It's not worth carrying the junk around that was put on you. You will have more energy and a healthier mind and you will lose the fear that you carry.Be free.
Rita M

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