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Aug 08, 2013
To IP:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You've taken on the weight of the world. You believe that you're the one to blame for what happened to the family, but nothing could be further from the truth. B--- is the one to blame. HE is the one responsible for the demise of the family, definitely not you. You don't know what you don't know. You don't know what would have happened had you not told. You don't know with any degree of certainty that staying quiet and staying for the sake of your younger sister did indeed protect her. The fact is, pedophiles—and that IS what he is, a pedophile—and sex offenders in general do not change their ways until they are made to stop. He very likely has other victims. He has very likely abused others. By telling you began what was necessary. It took great courage for you to tell. So don't EVER fault yourself. As for your mother, she enabled him. She chose him over the safety of her child, all her children. What is happening to your siblings is a function of what HE did, not a function of you being courageous enough to tell. Stop blaming yourself! You did what was right, and by doing what was right, you may well have protected others as well as yourself. You ARE an angel. And nothing you say to take responsibility will make me think otherwise. NOTHING. You proved that over and over, including when you went to that pregnant woman, and in the process saved her and YOU. I see the beauty in you, and so do others. You deserved and still deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and love. Start by treating your Self with that dignity and respect and love by recognizing that all that has happened is a result of HIS choices, HIS abuse, HIS lies, and your mother's refusal to hear the truth. Keep living in your truth, IP. And fall in love with your Self. I certainly have. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Aug 08, 2013
brave girl
by: Emily

You are a brave, beautiful person. I can understand your feeling like a fallen angel. I never felt innocent about my abuse, after age seven. I have been blamed by my abuser for the abuse.
You are blessed with a family. I hope you can recover with them...
God bless you and let the angels guard and keep you close... you are an ANGEL for that pregnant woman you listened to.
I hope you will rise above all the abuse and find a good place helping others. That is what I want to do, I am a nurse but I am so sad about my abuse I can't work at the moment...
Take good care of yourself and your loved ones... you are good.

Aug 08, 2013
don't keep blaming yourself for his huge sickness.
by: Eileen

You deserve your life back, you deserve love, you deserve to take that man's memory and refuse to allow it to rule you, he is the one to blame. We can see a beautiful woman, you must now let go of him and your mother, she is truly not ever going to see the light. My mother also refused to believe me, and I continued to do almost anything to get her love. and I mean anything. to no avail, all because she was not willing to face her own shame and blame in what went on. Please don't waste your life trying to get her to see the truth, she see's it, she just won't admit to it. that would make her to blame, she can't live with what she has done, so she pretends not to have done anything, you got him out of your life, now you are a beautiful woman who has saved many, just by telling your story, I thank you, as it reminded me once again, I need to stop blaming myself, I fall back in to the old mind set and I read others stories to remind me not to take blame for something I had no control over. I send my love to you for helping me remember once again, not to take the blame. unless I am to blame Darlene sent you that lovely note, she helped you and I, I thank her also. Eileen

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