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Sep 09, 2010
Hopeful:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It doesn't matter how "seductive" you believed yourself to be as a child, that is NEVER a reason for someone to sexually assault you. There are many underlying issues from your past; stuff that you didn't bring up. I do find it interesting that you included information about your brothers and other people, but nothing about your parents and the role they played in your "sexualization". The best advice I can offer is to seek some form of counseling. If you were truly "happy", I doubt that you would have written your story on this site; and certainly not in such a nonchalant, dispassionate way. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Sep 11, 2010
Not seduction....
by: KT

When a child is abused sexually ....we develop "characteristics" or signs we've been abused. The blind either are stupid or don't see it, the predators do....& that's why an abuse victim can be abused over & over. Victims have signs & perps SEE thos signs.

So....no, not seduction. It's just the way we humans behave after trauma & the way evil humans exploit that.

Social problems, inability to stay faithful....excessive masturbation as children..these are all normal reactions to long term abuse. You're not alone.

The book Courage To Heal is a good one, I highly suggest it. A therapist with a background in childhood sexual abuse is a good second step. Lots of luck to you.

Sep 14, 2010
I know what you mean.
by: Amaris

Hopeful, you are not alone in how you feel. I thought I was the only one as well.

Ever since my father molested me, I have been very promiscuous. I never counted how many people I slept with, both male and female, but I'm sure it's a lot. I have been told I brought it upon myself by my mother's fiance because I "Put myself in those situations." I have been raped since my father stopped molesting me. In total, five non-relatives have raped me and two relatives either molested and/or raped me. It never stopped me from being promiscuous, but it's because we see sex as love. It's what we were taught from a young age.

I would highly recommend you see a counselor. The comment above mine holds true as well: I have started reading "The Courage to Heal." It is an amazing book. I hope my comment helped you to know you're not alone.

Feb 17, 2011
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by: Seduction

i can relate alittle, i was raped wen i was 16 by an ex, and he used me as a sex toy for 2 1/2 years, and ima tell u, i was very sexually active, for 2004-2010. After i was able to break free frm him i was sleeping wit alotta men, n each time i was upset, im not a sl-t or a wh-o-e. I was trying to find love, but i learn 2 seduce and control, but i soon realize its not realli abt u seducing it abt them beign the weak one, i learn guys r weak wen it comes 2 sex. Age didnt matter to me, and i felt it was fun to learn to control them and make them do whatever they want just so they can taste and have u. It took me 4 years to realize that when ur in love, or ur with someone it doesnt have to do with sex. last year 2010, i fell in love deeply, and he was the first to truly show me wht real sex was, i thought sex was me laying there letting the guy finish and u just makes noise and moan, but no when u find out real sex, u'll look back and wonder alot of things. not only was the sex amazing with this guy, but he actually fell in love wit me nd i fell deeply in love wit him,, and ima tell u it feel liek drugs, better even, n bcuz of dat rape it mess my head up and in da end i broke his trust, and i lost him. and it took me 3 heartbreak frm him, and this heartbreak actually hurted, it felt like my heart was shatter but it was being pulled apart. this was enough to make me not sexual not more. he freed me, sex to me now is nothing, like im able 2 say no and not even look at another. it feel good. you just need to stop and realize things. even if u find a counsler u need to find ur inner peace. I know having attendtion feel gud, but having a peaceful mind is great. Hopeful ur strong i knw it, bcuz ur writing this u know wht is wrng, and right and u knw deep inside ur heart wht u need 2 do.

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