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May 31, 2009
 When we believe the "lies" we've been told...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Heather, when we grow up in homes that teach us that we are unworthy and unlovable we often chose partners who treat us as we believe we are: unworthy and unlovable. But that is because we believe lies; in truth, we ARE worthy of love and of dignity and respect. We need only believe it ourselves and then act accordingly. When we believe we ARE worthy of love, we won't settle for anything less. When we believe we are worthy of love, our radar for anything other than love is tuned in, and we are able to see when someone is only trying to use us or abuse us. The change must come from within, Heather. I sense you understand that on a deep level. Counselling can better help you deal with your past, and thus understand why you keep making unhealthy choices for yourself.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

P.S. Heather, if you would like to share more of your story, I certainly welcome it. I ask only that use the same name. Thank you for your understanding.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
May 31, 2009
 you need real support from genuine loving people
by: maurice

Heather2, if your serious about wanting to release yourself from you real feelings having been abused by your parents and marrying someone who keeps that uppermost in you life today. He has to be told stop, you deserve better at this time of your life. sadly getting the help you know and feel you need may not be too easy. Heather2. again if you are serious and I have no reason to think you are not help is available. When I say being serious it means you will have to try that bit harder than most to get help. If you have one/two real genuine friends who want to help you and who will stand by you as you tell the authorities or counsellors as to what to do. Begin with yourself, acknowledge you are being abused, being disrespected by people who should know better if there love for you is genuine. Darlene has offered you the best of loving caring words to help you begin the process of self help in your situation right now in life. heed her words she emphatises with you deeply
Jun 02, 2009
 Please Listen
by: Judy

Hello Heather2 - I ask that you please listen to the wise words of both Darlene and Maurice. You must come to understand that you are worthy of love and respect. You must demand this from others in your life and if you do not receive it then you let them go. You must also realize that you do not need to be in a relationship to be fulfilled. So many times we look for love from others without taking the much needed time to love and take care of ourselves. I ask that you make this "about you." Once you are all about you and loving you then you may meet someone who is deserving of the loveable and healthy you. Take care of yourself first and foremost. Judy
Jun 03, 2009
 words of real care especially for you
by: maurice

What caring words Judy wrote to you Heather 2. You sure must be uplifted with her words she has your real wellbeing in her heart with such kind, loving, caring words, She's special and wants what is the best for you as indeed does Darlene and myself. When I read such words it gives me a great uplift in myself knowing Darlene's site is such a valuable new beginnings and some real hope to those who might not otherwise know how to go about finding a trusting/caring adult to tell their story to. On Darlene's site each of her visitors receive words of encouragement for people to be brave and strong and tell someone who will make a difference in their lives after abuse. Heather 2 I sincerely hope Judy's words make good sense to you. You know what is best and good for you, Be confident enough in yourself with the help of your chosen few who LOVE you for who you are not for what was done to you by those not so nice people in your innocence and vulnerability years. NEVER BLAME YOURSELF HEATHER 2

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