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Oct 06, 2007
You are not alone
by: Darlene Barriere

Your feelings are perfectly natural and not at all uncommon, Grace. You really are not alone, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Many sexual abuse victims experience arousal and even reach an orgasm during an assault, but that does not mean they enjoyed being assaulted. You suffered through attacks and your body betrayed you. Don't beat yourself up about that, because when you chastise yourself, you add guilt and shame to the equation; you did nothing wrong. I'll say it again: You did nothing wrong and you have nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of.


I recommend counselling, Grace. The right counsellor will help you put the assaults and the feelings associated with those assaults into perspective. If you can work through your conflicted feelings, the compulsive eating may well take care of itself. You're worth it, Grace. You really are.



Oct 14, 2007
To the disrespectful "Anonymous" who wrote here today
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

To the person who went with the "Anonymous" handle and wrote completely inappropriate comments on ths page, as well as other story pages on this site. I have deleted your unacceptable comments. If you cannot be respectful, you are NOT welcome here. I've created this forum as a support system for the people brave enough to share the suffering they've endured.

It took a great deal of courage for Grace to admit to her feelings about this situation, feelings that MANY abuse victims experience.

"Anonymous," whoever you are, I strongly suggest you get more informed about the facts of sexual abuse. What Grace described is not uncommon; but when others show disrespect and judgement such as you did with your tasteless comments, you effectively stifle the person who showed such honesty.

I'm the one who decides which stories get posted on this site, and I made the decision to post Grace's story in order to educate others about the effects of child sexual abuse and why reporting sexual abuse is so difficult.

Before you choose to comment on any story, "Anonymous", read the comments I've written first. I taylor those comments specifically to the story that was posted; there are valuable lessons to be learned in every one of those postings.

Nov 06, 2007
NOT ALONE
by: LJR

Please dont feel bad about it feeling good. I really think that it may be a defense mechanism. If we let it feel good than we can pretend that we wanted it and then it is all "OK". i hope that makes sense. I too was abused as a child and even 20 years later I find myself willing to do things with people that I don't really want to but I figure if I do it willingly, then at least they can't make me ever again. Then I will have "wanted" it and "liked" it and it is not as hard to cope with as being forced. I am glad you shared your story. I have delt with alot of those feelings myself.

Aug 09, 2008
my story is the same as yours basically
by: Anonymous

***Comment deleted as inappropriate by Darlene Barriere - Webmaster***

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