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Jan 11, 2012
Gem:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What you've done is given your Self a "life sentence" for things you did and decisions you made while you were a child. You seem to believe that because you knew it was wrong as a little girl, that you warrant life imprisonment without the possibility of parole (forgiveness). Yet you've pardoned those who offended against you. Think about that, Gem. Really think about that. Ask your Self why it is that you should be treated any differently than the way you've treated others who made the same decisions. When we condemn our Selves for decisions we've made as children, we are applying mature adult values to those decisions when we didn't have the full wherewithal to decide otherwise. Gem, the adults in your life are the ones who set you and your young family members for sexual abuse. Your parents set you up for keeping the secret when they made you terrified of them with their physical abuse. And somewhere along the piece, an adult sexually abused at least one or more of those children in some way. Sexually intrusive children do not suddenly become sexual on their own; they are taught by being exposed themselves. You can't keep dealing with this alone. The secret will continue to haunt you, unless and until you are willing to un-earth all the feelings and emotions. Please seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with all that you've buried and what is surfacing. Consider the work of Byron Katie; and if you do, keep an open mind. And for goodness sake, ease up on your Self. You can turn the pain into power, and in order to do so with LOVE, you can't keep condemning your Self. I send you love, light and positive energy, Gem. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Jan 12, 2012
Others Need You
by: Rita M

Hi Gem,
You have shown the others power and strength but denied yourself freedom of self forgiveness.The others are probably wandering where you are and
probably want to thank you for stopping the cycle.
You really need to let go.You are very young and
have a life to live.You owe it to yourself and others that don't know you sure could use your help.First though,get some help and release yourself from the past.You were all young then and have much more wisdom,I'm sure now that you are all grown up.You would be a good example to many.God Bless
Rita M

Jan 23, 2012
Happy to hear from you!
by: Gem

Thank you Darlene and thank you Rita for responding back to my story. I've always been afraid to talk to someone face to face about my past and even as I was writing my story I was afraid of being judged and hated. Your kind words have brought tears of happiness to my eyes and lifted my spirit. I really needed to hear some advice so I'm grateful to you both for it.

Jan 24, 2012
You are a true Gem
by: Rita M

It is a pleasure to encourage people who have been
hurt by abuse.Being believed somehow calms the storm in and around you.It is like a divine intervention.Peace that you have been looking for
is starting to finally seep into your life.You are
worth everthing when it comes to your peaceable mind.It's a great thing that you can experience the calm waters around you assuring you that you are not forgotten.The understanding of the war within yourself will one day set you free.This comes from the desire to be councelled.You bloom like a flower and things will start to fade away because of your willingness to heal and replace it with something better.It's like an untold treasure that is waiting for you.You need to keep thinking of your worthiness.Keep up the good work that you have started because now you are starting to see how great of a person you are.
You are a true Gem.God Bless.
Rita M

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