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Jun 07, 2013
To Emotionally Scarred:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Don't blame yourself for not telling the truth when you were younger. Fear prevented you from telling. Fear that your mother instilled in you from a very young age. Understand that your siblings have been brainwashed by your mother. They believe you deserve what you get from her because she taught them to believe that. Try not to judge them, for they really know not what they do. Your mother, on the other hand, clearly knows what she's doing and that it's wrong, even criminal. The system failed you, even though it was obvious that you were being abused. And I'm not so quick to believe that your father's absence makes him oblivious to what's happening in the home. There are too many signs. It's part of his job being a father, as it is with your mother, to ensure his children are kept safe. He's shirked that responsibility. You have the right to live a life that is free from harm. Document everything your mother does to you. Just keep the documentation well hidden. And report the abuse. At the very least, consider contacting ChildLine on 0800 1111. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childline.org.uk/Pages/Home.aspx

You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and love. And just because you've had to endure horrific abuse doesn't mean that you won't ever get beyond it. Healing is a choice, a choice those of us who were abused must make. And when we do make that choice, our options open up for us, options about healing modalities and options about what we'll do with the rest of our lives. You've got wonderful noble plans to help others who have grown up like you have. Consider that your purpose...when you have a purpose, you have a reason to move forward in your life. You are not the lies your mother has called you. She's mentally deranged, so don't take her word for it! She has no credibility. Believe in your Self, because you are so much stronger than you realize. You must be because you've survived. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jun 08, 2013
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Emotionally Scarred, your mom is deeply troubled. I really hope that you're out of that house now. Oh, and the fact that she told you that she would kill you if you tell someone actually says that she knows what she did is wrong yet doesn't stop doing it and that makes her even more dangerous. If you're still in that house, PLEASE GET OUT NOW!!! Next time she lays a hand on you ever again, please consider reporting her to the cops ASAP; children are gifts to treasure, not to abuse.

Jun 08, 2013
The Horror, Part 2
by: Anonymous

Your mom is wrong. You're not fat; you're not ugly; you are beautiful. You're not a loser; you're not weak; you're very strong. You're not a failure; you're not an accident; you're a miracle; you're none of those lies. Oh, and saying "die" and "I wish you were never born", "you weren't supposed to be born", etc., is the worst statement a parent can make to his/her child because it sends a strong message that the child is rejected, worthless, unimportant and unlovable, but, again, you're none of those lies. You are lovable; you are important and you are worthy of love, protection, dignity and respect, all of which you were sadistically denied of. As for your uncle, shame on him for berating you for simply crying for help because even uncles are supposed to protect their nieces/nephews, not the other way around. It's not discipline when a parent beats and berates his/her child; it's not discipline when a parent tell his/her child to die; when your mom does all of the above, she's the one who has serious mental problems.

Jun 08, 2013
Prayers coming your way
by: Tracy

The above people here are absolutely right. Go to your counselor and ask to be removed from your home or go to an emergency domestic violence shelter ASAP. Ask someone to take you there. Find the strength w/I yourself to stand up and demand your rights. Your mom is on a power trip with you. Do not allow her to hover over you causing your life hell anymore. Think real hard about what dreams you have, share them with positive influencial people like your teachers and counselors ASAP. Leave her NOW and don't look back. You deserve life, love and liberty. YOU are Gods child first because he is our creator and that makes you a gift. I am a 37 year old who has been through physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse but I dare someone to try their tactics on me now....and one day soon this too will be you. PRAYERS of peace and healing and God Bless!

Jun 10, 2013
Don't give them what they want
by: Also 17

You do not have to continue living this way! Have you tried calling the police or speaking to a school conselour?? She is abusing you! Do you really want to keep feeling depressed and suicidal because of your abusive mother?! It is HER fault, not yours! If you feel this way, it'll be giving her what she wants! You can become much stronger than this and overcome this abuse. If you believe no one is on your side, Jesus is on YOUR side and he loves you and only wants the best for you. But you have to give him a chance first. Stop the cycle now! It's NEVER too late! You should read the book called "A Child Called "It." In the book the boy is abused, tortured and starved by his mother on various occasions. I know it sounds depressing, but there is a happy ending. The boy forgives his (psychopath) mother and moves on with his life, gets married and takes good care of his future children. If you are going to call for help though, I suggest you gather proof. So you can leave that hellhole as soon as possible and possibly live with another relative or someone qualified to take REAL parental care over you. I will be praying for you. And you can count me as a friend because I care. Jesus loves you and God bless you. -Future Psychologist

Jun 21, 2013
Thank you everyone for your comments x
by: Emotionally Scarred

Hello everyone. I'm really glad all of you took your time to add comments to my story, I really appreciate it! Darlene, you really helped me. I'll consider contacting ChildLine because recently my mum has been getting violent again, a little. You inspire me Darlene, and your comment really encourages and motivates me to want to move on and achieve in life. Thank you! I guess my mum is in the wrong after all and it's not my fault. Thank you so much for caring and being helpful! I wish you a very bright and cheerful future :)

@The horror- Anonymous: I'm still in this house, I'll see how things go for a while before considering leaving. I thank you a lot for your comment, it made me feel so much better about myself. You are really helpful, however I still kind of believe I am some of what my mum called/calls me. My uncle doesn't like me in general for no reason but I understand, anyway, thanks a lot!

@Tracy: May God bless you, too! You seem like a very nice person to be supporting me just like the other comment-ers, I thank you for that. Your advice was really helpful and I'll seriously consider it. I am sorry for your past experiences of abuse but I am so glad that you stand strong today! You were always strong, you put up with all of that! God bless you. Thanks a lot for commenting on my story and giving advice :)

@Also 17 : You really made me think this through just like Darlene and the other helpful comment-ers! I'm kind of afraid to call the police on my mum but I'll try ChildLine as Darlene suggested, so they can do get me help without me having to do it on my own...it just makes me feel more safer that way. I'll have a look at that book you suggested, it seems interesting as the boy moves on with his life despite his abusive and neglectful mother. Seems like a lot of people can learn from him. I hope to leave very soon if the abuse starts again just like it was before, and I will gather proof! Thanks for your comment and advice, I really appreciate everyone who cares. God bless you, too! xxx

You're all amazing! And so is everyone else who reads my story and other people's stories, and who is going through abuse, who suffered abuse, and who suffered problems in life, and also who is going through hard times! God bless you all, God bless everyone!x

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