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Feb 21, 2011
Ellie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm not surprised that you're beginning to remember things that you didn't recall before. You see, at 14 you're becoming more mature. You understand more about what is and isn't appropriate. You know more about relationships than you did as a little girl; not as much as you're going to learn, but definitely more. Your mother's current relationship that you believe is abusive may well have been the trigger. But your self-esteem can't be tied into your mother's relationships or into the incidents that happened to you as a little girl. You ARE worthy of dignity and respect. But you must also be prepared to give dignity and respect in order to get it back. As angry as you get with your mother, when you disrespect her you disrespect yourself. When you disrespect yourself, you are treating yourself no better than those sick excuses of human beings who mistreated you. Please consider some type of counseling. Contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the what you are dealing with and the cutting and depression. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Feb 22, 2011
Get out! Fast!
by: Anonymous

Ellie, your so-called mom and her boyfriend are so twisted and screwed up that they don't even know how to take care of themselves, not to mention be parents to you. Your "stepdad" is a slimy, disgusting pig and he should be locked up for all those disgusting crimes that he committed against you. As for your so-called mom, shame on her for treating you so sadistically! She needs help! Oh, and what happened to you is not your fault because you did nothing wrong. You are not to blame; those beasts are to blame because they are the ones who chose to hurt and offend you. You were the child; they were the adults. They had all the power and they misused it over you. You are really lovable, so don't believe those lies that your mother is spewing. Please get away from this poisonous "family" and tell somebody you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you.

Feb 22, 2011
Everything will be alright
by: Anonymous

Dear Ellie, I can tell you are going through a really tough time at the minute honey. It's horrible feeling life isn't worth living anymore, I have been there, I ended up taking an overdose and months of councilling. You will get a better relationship with your mum, me and my mum used to fight all the time, your a teenager and remembering that is so horrible, because you want to blame and tell your mum, but how will she react, will she believe you? (that doesn't matter, we believe you on here and we and others do and will care about you. you've got a lot of anger in you and I can empathise that, i was the same, but you need to find a way with dealing with it that isnt harming yourself. i honestly find team sports really helpful, you don't have to be good at it, but it gets rid of all your excess energy, so your too tired to be angry. you'll be able to reflect on things better with a clear steady head, and your relationship with your mum might get better. don't push your mum or friends away, bring them closer :) xxxx

Mar 01, 2011
Great and good news: A friend in need is a friend indeed
by: maurice

Ellie: Great you have found Darlene: She truly has given you loving words from her womans heart: They will empower you: They will ecourage you to be brave, to be strong and seek out real healing from all you have had to endure with sicko's who have abused you: taken away you dignity and your self respect as one very special and beautiful child and NOW teenager: Please have a friend your own age and gender: a good beginning to you living your life to the full: Making it safe and the best for you and your brother: He will be your inner strength, your wanting to get help: You are growing, you are maturing as one very special Girl, teenager, beginning to LOVE the intelligent and courageous adolecent wanting to make sense of wht those animalistic people have done to you: Great you accept they especially that sicko in the wheel chair have hurt you, humiliated you, taken away your innocence as a child: You know now they abused you: Darlene has spilled her heart out to you: She wants what is the best for you and your brother: Speak with a counsellor: A kind teacher who will guide you in the right direction to get help: Ellie, this I know will make you feel good about yourself: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Oh yes, please take part in team games with your class mates and friends: You are gifted, you are tallented, you are special, You have leadership qualities you will be valued and respected by your team mates: You will make real and natiural friends for life: Hi encourage your brother to have ahealthy mind in a healthy body: There is safety in numbers: You'll get to like your body, you'll want to respect it and love it: Be gentle and kind to it and your self; Hi, give it a hug and a cuddle from time to time in front of the mirror: Celebrate that wonderful and wonderful you (The Me) looking out at you; Ellie, read Darlene's words to you very carefully: have a freind, be a friend: Speak with a counsellor/therapist who will give you a whole new perspective on all you shared with Darlene and her many visitors who empatise with you: You have found a safe haven to share the pain of being abused: Good on you for being so brave:

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