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Mar 13, 2010
Elizabeth:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Don't EVER blame yourself. This IS all on your brother. This is NOT your fault. You are NOT a screw up. You were the one who told the truth. You were the one who was molested. You most certainly did NOT deserve what happened to you at the hands of your brother and at the hands of your parents. Everyone in your family have betrayed and abandoned you. But don't abandon yourself. Stay true to yourself and don't treat yourself the same way the rest of your family is treating you. Your parents are twisted in their thinking. Please try and stay away from your brother if at all possible. Live with your grandmother, if that's an option. Consider contacting one of the hotlines listed on my stories page, depending on where you live, in order to talk to someone confidentially. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 13, 2010
The sooner, the better...Darlene is right!
by: Anonymous

Elizabeth, you are not to blame; in fact, your whole so-called family (except for grandma) is really to blame because they should've protected you from your so-called brother. They certainly didn't deserve to have a beautiful daughter like you, but most of all, you certainly didn't deserve to have a twisted, uncaring, unloving, ruthless family...not to mention a willing enabler for a mother because you were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and they are only misusing it so the sooner you tell someone, let alone your grandma, the better. Darlene is right! Elizabeth, please tell someone you really trust.

Mar 15, 2010
I'll never know why parents don't trudt their children
by: maurice

I belive 75% of family life is wholesome and good and children grow up in a loving caring environment into mature loving adults so that they in turn can continue having a good family life and home for their children. Elizabeth 2 sadly you were born to parent's who mess their children's life's up by abusing them and letting them be abused by their siblings. ignoring them when they share in trust. You told your mother the truth and she immedieately went to protect your abuser. Your Brother. He abused you in your inocence, took advantage of you while alone with you in the house. His father did not have to tell him what to do. A sibling who abuses another of his family needs immediate help. Your parents did not see the awful wrong he did to you and the effects it was going to have in your life. Great you had the safety of your Grandma's condo and her trust and love. It was not my fault, I was not to blame. My brother too advantage of me in my innocence and vunerability. He was my brother, he was bigger than me, he scared me, I did what he told me do out of fear of him. I trusted him and this is what he did to me. Then my parents turned on me. Bad, bad parents. Elizabeth 2, great you found Darlene's site. please NOW get on with living your life to the full by following her loving encourageing words to you. She knows what is the best way for you to begin healing from your abuse. I am a big girl now, I know it was wrong what my brother did to me. My parents are'nt going to change their attitude for the present anyway. I can't waste my life waiting until they do. Continue with your education, have friends like your friend who trusted you when you splurted out what your brother did to you. She is a true friend, you can trust, you need a FRIEND or Friends to help you get the help Darlene suggests. Of course you have your GRandma love and support. My life is the most important for me to live NOW. Remember Elizabeth boyfriends can come and go while you naturally build relationships but a true friend will always be there for you. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body, get emerced in Team Games and cultural activities with you class mates/friends there is safety in numbers. Team sports are a very natural way to build up lasting friendships. I'm Special and I love me. Be gentle and kind to yourself and your body. erase the memory of what your brother did to your beautiful body by soothing and keeping it beautiful with lotions and creams for that purpose. massage it with love. Remember NOW Darlene with her big woman's heart has given you empowering advice. But you must act on that advice. I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: SIMPLY BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT.

Mar 15, 2010
A little too late
by: Elizabeth 2

My grandmother sadly passed away about 4 months ago. Because I'm 19 now there's nothing I can do against my brother anymore. My parents got their wish, and all I can say is that I hope karma gets the best of them. I have issues even having relationships with people just from everything that has happened in the past eleven years.

So thank you mom and dad oh and to my hateful brother for completely screwing me up as a child. You had no right to take away my innocence just because you were curious. You completely ruined my life.

From Darlene: Elizabeth, just because you're now 19 years of age does not mean that you cannot file a case against your brother. If you want to pursue that avenue, I suggest you do an online search using the following keywords: "statute of limitations on child abuse in ___" (fill in the blank with your state, if you live in the USA, that is; if you live in Canada, there is no statute of limitations), and then read about the statute of limitations where you live.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Mar 17, 2010
open your mind to learning
by: maurice

Darlene certainly has your welbeing in her heart. don't just read her comments, take them into your heart and mind. You will succeed, you will be happier in yourself if you do. I hope you have a very special friend in your life who will help you to do what you know to be the right thing for you to do in your healing journey away from abuse. My comment, my heart is speaking to you. Always believe im MYSELF. I can, I will, I must, because I am worth it. OK off the botttom and have a healthy mind in a healthy body.

Apr 03, 2010
you haven't done anything wrong.
by: Julia

you're not the screw up! Your brother is, and your parents are living in denial. I really hope everything works out for you.

Apr 28, 2010
Sorry
by:

im sooo sorry for you!!!! :(

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