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Nov 13, 2009
Understandable anger...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm delighted you've started counselling Elisabeth, for your sake and for the sake of your children and your marriage. Speaking from experience, it will be grueling, but it will also be so worthwhile as you move through the process. And just for the record, your stepfather raped you each and every time. You didn't let him; he manipulated and controlled you, as well as your sister. As for your mother, she has a lot to answer for. But at this point, just focus on yourself. Always remember, the best gift you can give to your children is to take really good care of their mother. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Nov 13, 2009
Your stepdad was out of control
by: Anonymous

Elisabeth, your stepdad has lots of problems, and he, alongside your mother, really needs help. As for your mother, she should've protected you from his anger issues, so she is just as responsible as he really is. i'm glad that you tried counselling because you are worth the help that you deserve. I wish you all the best!

Nov 13, 2009
Healing...
by: Anonymous

You have every right to hate him. All I can tell is even I am a sexual abuse victim and I am still trying to get out of everything. I am in the healing process too. Its painfull and bumpy but its worth travelling. Finally you will be left with a life where you wont be scared of anything esp anyone. Try to reach out to your husband. Telling someone helps a lot. I know its not easy to tell someone something which has been left behind for so long. but as i told you its a long road and you will reach the end faster with better help. Reach out for more people and try to be in a healthy environment. Dont ever meet your parents if you dont want to. I know you might be angry for this but please dont show your frustration on your kids. That thing will hurt you even more later in your life, Try to be away from kids when you are voilent and frustrated. Anyways I will wish a very speedy recovery. I myself am recovering. Lets wish ourselves a happy life ahead.

Nov 14, 2009
A great place to begiin A site of Vision just for you
by: Maurice

Elizabeth, Another Step father. Oh will we ever know the mystery of human relationships that begin in the name of Love for each other. Sadly you were abused by a Step Father, by a Mother who did not seem to know my children are me and let that beast do what he did to you. Great you found Darlene and her site. Is'nt she a caring, visionary. Little did she know how her site would begin the process of healing from abuse by her many visitors to it. We begin the process by acting on her Comment to us. Her words sure come from her heart to you and me personally. Her words to you Elizabeth are from a womans heart as well as asking you to begin sharing your story with counsellors who will assist you make a sense of REAL LOVE. beginning within yoursefl and then shared out to your lovely chuldren. You deserve the best NOW. Please Elizabeth take time soaking in Darlene loving, gentle but firm words to you on your way forward in your life TODAY. Don't quit or give up on LOVING yourself. You were abused horrifically which will take time to erase from your mind. But you have real caring loving trusting people around you now to help you. Your children are your greatest treasure, they will be your inner strength and motivation to get professional and all the help you need. Hi there is life after abuse, so LIVE WELL, LAUGH ALOT, LOVE MUCH. Always believe in yourself, I'M SPECIAL, I LOVE ME, I can, I will, I must beginning with myself. Hug yourself and let those you really love and trust now hug you. The Simplicity of a hug. There's something in a simple hug that warms the heart.

Nov 19, 2009
Thank you
by: Elisabeth

Thank you all the above comments, its really nice to feel people out there who lissen and care.
Really put some tears in my eyes.

From Darlene: You are so welcome, Elisabeth. I delighted that the comments have helped you. Stay the course and you'll do fine.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir



Nov 23, 2009
There is goodness and greatness in you
by: maurice

You are just beginning to realize this Elizabeth. I was 33 when it all came together for me. You'll be the winner Elizabeth. You have two beautiful children and there father to walk with and love. Begin loving yourself so you can share it out to your children and husband. Then out to your closest of friends who are your support too on your journey back to reality about all that happened to you. Another Step Father. I cringe, I get angry, I just want to beat the living daylights out of them all for what they have done to you and so many other similiar children who found themselves at their mercy and control. Their partners including your mother have an awful lot to answer for. Again I don't want to brand all Step Fathers with the same brush. But sadly I have known alot of them who have abused. Elizabeth be safe, continue with your counselling Your the best.

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