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Mar 13, 2009
You are definitely NOT to blame...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Elii, you've had to face horrendous neglect and abuse. Your parents chose not to protect you. I can only imagine the feelings of betrayal, abandonment and loneliness. You did not deserve to be mistreated. You deserved dignity and respect, love, caring and nurturing. You did not get any of this, so I can understand why it is that you feel as though you do not exist. But you DO exist, Elii, and you've made that known by posting your story here on my site. That was a brave first step.

Of course you wouldn't trust anyone; in the past, trusting has yielded nothing but more abuse. But at some point you must come to terms with the fact that you cannot continue to weather this storm alone. The next step is to trust someone with your story, difficult as that will be.

You say you love your boyfriend, yet you cannot trust him. I gather the lack of trust is more about your past than it is about his actions. If it is his actions that have prompted this lack of trust, then you must move on. You deserve to have a loving boyfriend who understands. However, if you are holding back because of what you've had the terrible misfortune of living through, then perhaps it's time to open up to him. But if not your boyfriend, you must find someone.

I do not know your country. Nor do I know what kind of resources there are available to you; therefore, I cannot give you any numbers to call. If there are any women's organizations where you live, I suggest you contact them. At this point, I can only give you a voice here on this website, and offer words of encouragement and support. You are NOT to blame, Elii. The blame lies squarely on the shoulders of your abusers and those who refused to protect you when their job was to keep you safe from harm. You ARE worthy. You ARE deserving of love and attention. You ARE an articulate and wonderful human being. And I for one am very glad that you DO exist. Hang in there, dear. My heart is with you.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Mar 13, 2009
these are very good stories
by: Anonymous

i find these stories very interesting. i am doing my speech on these types if abuse and i found alot of what child abuse is thank-you so much<3
i hope these people now are living good lifes

Mar 14, 2009
Monsters for family and the so-called system
by: Francine

Elii, what your so-called family did to you is pathetic and ungrateful. I'm sorry that you didn't have a good family; in fact, my brother used to beat the crap out of me all the time and no one, not to mention my parents, would ever stop him whatsoever; in fact, even my parents would always just sit there and watch me getting beaten by their sadistic son (my brother). I understand what it's like for your so-called mom to shave your head bald after your so-called brother cut off your hair in your sleep; my mom really hates long bangs, and last year, she cut off some of my long bangs until they fell onto my eyes. And then she told me, "I hope you get laughed at by kids at school because next time, you must think thrice before asking us for long bangs." As for your hatred for the entire human race, I can relate, too; I hate the entire human race, too, and never trusted anyone who I thought as a friend again. I am an angry person all the time...please don't get angry all the time; please get help before it's too late cuz remember, the sooner you get help, the better. BTW, everyone involved is wrong; you are NOT ugly. You are beautiful. You are not stupid either; you are smart. The only stupidity that I see comes frm your entire so-called family and the entire so-called system for failing you. Whatever happened to you will never be your fault, those animals are to blame and they need to go to jail for all those heinous crimes that they committed against you. Like I said, again, please try counselling or therapy cuz you deserved so much better and I wish you all the best.

Mar 17, 2009
Wishing you goodness
by: Anonymous

Elii,

You have such a strong spirit. Throughout everything that you have endured, you still find the will, the courage, to forge relationships and to give of yourself. If your boyfriend is not the one, I hope and pray that you find someone in your presence who can be trusted with your heart. One thing I know is that God will place at least one person in our lives who accepts us unconditionally.

It really hurts to know that there is a young woman like you out there who has experienced so much pain - carrying a burden of guilt that is not yours to bear. I do believe that in time your angel(s) will appear. You will have to take that leap of faith at some point though, and believe that someone will try and understand what you've been through...Reading your story, I know that there is a God. You could have been so many things...but you live, you survived...you try love. You are so awesome. I'll pray for you, Elii.

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