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Mar 05, 2008
You are NOT a "bad woman"
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Originally posted Oct 7, 2007

Oh Elaine, the negative messages your parents instilled in you were so terribly wrong. And the way they treated you was nothing short of cruel. Your decision to abort must have been a very difficult one to make; few women make this decision light-heartedly. Your residual emotions afterward were magnified by the callous way in which your parents responded. Now is the time to tell yourself that your actions did not—indeed, DO NOT—make you unfit to have a family.

You've been a "counsellor" to your mother practically your whole life. Wouldn't you agree that it's time for you to find a counsellor for yourself, Elaine? Someone who can help you sort out your feelings of inferiority? Unless and until you find some kind of help for yourself, your feelings of inadequacy will continue to rule your life. Take back your power, Elaine. Get the help you need. You deserve that for yourself.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Mar 05, 2008
Not Your Fault Cuz I Feel You
by: Francine

Originally posted Oct 7, 2007

Elaine, Darlene is right. You are a good woman. And of course, your parents aren't right in abusing you! They are WRONG!!! You are not a murderer, you are not a slut, you are not a slag, you are not a swot, you are not a b****, you don't deserve to be your mom's counsellor. You deserved to be a daughter when you were a kid. I should suggest that you see a counsellour if you are still having problems as a kid. You should really tell someone. How your dad burned most of your clothes is so inhumane, so is excessive corporal punishment! What an evil, disgusting way that your parents treated you! You'll need a lot of help! You are not stupid! You are clever, smart, beautiful, worthwile, and strong. The only stupidity that I see is from your parents! You deserve for them to say, "Baby girl, we are wrong. We are very, very, very wrong. We are so sorry. Please forgive us."

Mar 05, 2008
sorry
by: Anonymous

Originally posted Oct 18, 2007

I am so sorry to hear that you had to go through this tramatic experience. i know what you are feeling. I was raped and abused as a teenager.

Mar 05, 2008
NOT a failure
by: Anonymous

Originally posted Oct 21, 2007

Elaine,
I know how you feel. I am still really young but I live with people with mental disorders. DON'T second-guess yourself. Its hard to stop believing something you have heard for years but YOU CAN DO IT. I know it.

Mar 05, 2008
Please love yourself because we love you
by: Anonymous

Originally posted Oct 27, 2007

I almost had the same story. First I started to hate myself .But i found out if I hate myself who is going to love me? if I see myself dirty and unworthy who is going to value me? Now I love myself and I respect myself. I know that it was not my fault at all. I am now stronger than ever.Please value yourself, and know that some people like me do not judge you and love you. Take care of yourself.

Mar 05, 2008
wow
by: Anonymous

Originally posted Dec 09, 2007

Im 15 right now and i live with my dad. my friends all think his this amazing hot kind funny sensitive man, but i know him really. he hits me everyday, even in front of friends. he doesnt care we are. I cant really talk to him about anything with out getting one hell of a beating. and right now i dont know how to confront him that my best friend is pregnant. he'd start judging me by the ppl I hang with! He wont care if i bring up the fact she was raped. and i feel like i need to be with her right now, his rules are strict. no cell phone unless weekends. no sleeping out etc! and i need to be there for Cathy. I use to say to myself "just look at his point of view. he has no wife. she died. maybe his struggling to raise me" but even if it is that. doesn he care how i feel about not having a mother? he talls me stories about how nice she was and just makes me hate him more, wishing she was rather here. i know he doesnt hate me, but i feel i need to just runaway, i dont know wat to do

Mar 05, 2008
Hey
by: A New Friend

Originally posted Feb 09, 2008

Hey Elaine, i've been through similar things in my life and now i am 33, it hurts so much, i just don't know what to do. I only talk to my mother, she was always with me and we both went through hell. There have been people in this world that actually have told us that we deserved what we got, just because they have everything and a happy life. It hurts when people tell you that you deserve abuse, that is just uncalled for. I've ignored and alienated a lot of people in my life, and i'm slowly trying to get and feel better about who i am. I do lots of things to occupy myself with other hobbies and what i love to do, i am hoping and suggesting you try the same and just keep moving on. you are a beautiful person, and you know it.

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